Men are often attracted to younger women because it makes them feel younger and panders to their delicate egos. While this may sound like a sexist statement, it is evident that this trend isn't going to go away in a hurry. So where does that leave women over 40? Well, out of place, actually. But that isn't to say that things aren't changing. In recent times, it's become much easier for women over 40 to go about finding a soulmate than ever before.
- Explore The Open Road: The road to "how can I find true love" is wide open if you know how to navigate the lanes and bylanes. There are several avenues for women looking for a date, a companion or even someone to spend the rest of their lives with. It doesn't matter what you want; the point is to go after it when you are inspired. Only when you are relaxed and good spirits will ever get you anywhere – including the fulfilment of your destiny.
- Try The New Way: Just because something is tried and tested, that doesn't mean it's the best way possible. Try new ways of meeting people. Never been to an online dating site? Why not try that? If you've never thought of working with a matchmaker, why not give it a go? What do you have to lose except your "single" status on Facebook? Are you thinking "how can I find true love" at the beach? Don't be surprised if that's the very thing you're missing out on.
- Choose Your Friends Wisely: Does that ring a bell? It's what your mom used to tell you all the time, isn't it? Well, it's good horse sense. Look around you, and you will see that you're mostly surrounded by single women over 40 who keep complaining about their situation — the over-dating, the being lonely and sick, and the feeling that you'll be stuck there forever. Move out of that circle and get into more positive settings. If you hang around with winners, some of that is bound to rub off on you sooner or later.
- Focus On Happiness: This might not seem to make sense initially because, after all, who isn't trying to focus on happiness? The fact is, very few people are; what they focus on is the things they think will make them happy, which isn't the same thing at all. Discover what stirs you up and puts your gears in motion, and simply do more of that. If you're happy, then everything magically seems to fall into place, and finding a soulmate will be much easier on your nerves.
To sum it up, if you want to change your life and rejuvenate your mind in order to feel fabulous after 40, then doing the things suggested above is the best starting point possible. Try them and you'll see the gradual effect that this has on your love life.
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