Why Porn Is Like Junk Food

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Would you like fries with that porn?

This one's for a guy's eyes, but women, you're more than welcome to be a fly on the wall. It is perhaps a good spot to inhabit while taking a fresh look at the confusing, confronting topic of men and their porn habits! 5 Excuses A Man Will Give For Watching Porn

While most of my work as a Relationship Expert and Coach is about preventative measures, I’m simultaneously a pragmatist. There are fairly easy ways to prevent the unhealthy (but too often inevitable) issues that plague relationships such as dismal communication, habits hidden from our partners, discomfort with intimacy and lack-luster sex – just like there are fairly easy ways to prevent unhealthy (but too often inevitable) issues that plague our health, like weight-gain, lethargy, crappy food choices and chronic illnesses.

As a pragmatist, however, I take just as much stock in the ways things are as in the way they should or could be. I take just as much stock in actual behaviors as the ways we should or could behave.

The pragmatist part of me knows that about eighty percent of men watch porn. These are well-meaning, emotionally aware, intelligent, all around good guys we are talking about here. For whatever reasons (which I’ll touch on briefly later, compliments of my preventative part), men watch porn. Period.

I link porn to junk food. It’s a far cry from a healthy meal, but just because I am using "porn" and "junk food" in the same sentence, it doesn't mean I am saying you shouldn't have any.

Life is no fun without a little junk food, right? Junk food can be fun, tasty, a rush, an indulgence and a naughty pleasure. Often, junk food reminds us of our adolescence and brings us a strange form of comfort.

As good as junk food may taste, you have to watch out for too much of it. It causes sluggish behavior, energy loss, weight issues, depression, and other serious diseases. A good rule to live by regarding food is to eat healthy, nutritious food ninety percent of the time so that you're healthy, happy, energized and ready for life. Ten percent of the time you can allow yourself to indulge in junk food.

The same goes for porn.

Porn is a lot like junk food. A little here and there is a fun, tasty naughty pleasure. It could very well remind you of your adolescence and serve as a strange form of comfort. Porn can be titillating and hot. Porn can be fun. I am not suggesting you should have none at all.

I just want to draw some attention to some side effects from the over saturation of porn.

Too much porn is numbing and de-sensitizing. It limits the depth of sensuality that is possible to have with another human being, and quite honestly, narrows your capacity as a great lover.

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