The Pretty Pink Pussy Tour (Your Vulva, Vagina, and You)

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The Pretty Pink Pussy Tour (Your Vulva, Vagina, and You)

This week, I had a patient who came in because of an abnormal pap smear, but we ended up chatting a whole lot more about the anatomy of girl parts. It still amazes me how many of you out there still don’t really understand the Pretty Pink Pussy (that’s code for vagina, vulva, clitoris, etc…you get the picture). So this post is my gift to all of you for whom “down there” is still a mystery. I can see you all blushing now (Oh my, that doctor just said the word pussy!) But don’t be shy or embarrassed. Owning Your Body is all part of Owning Pink, and you have to understand it to Own it. SYou ready?

Meet Yoni

I don’t mean to insult anyone who is already very in touch with her body, but in case you’re one of those women who has never been introduced to Yoni (what I call my girly parts), let me introduce you. Ladies- Yoni. Yoni- Ladies. Or you can make it more personal. What do you call your girly parts? If you’re still calling it Front Bottom or Pee Pee after raising your kids, maybe it’s time to reclaim your girly parts for yourself. I taught an Owning Sexuality workshop and one woman named hers Elizabeth. Another named hers The Furry Monkey. What about you? Have you named your girly parts? Try it! Be creative. Close your eyes and let the name come to you, then start using it. You might be surprised what comes up. Today, I’m going to invite you to Own Pink by taking a tour of your girly parts, whatever you call them. Are you ready? Wheee!!!! Here we go!

What You’ll Need For the Pretty Pink Pussy Tour

1. A private room with a door you can lock
2. A hand mirror or a full length mirror you can straddle up to
3. A nonjudgmental mind
4. A smile on your face (Yes, you can giggle. In fact, I encourage it.)

Take the Tour

Step 1: Take your hand mirror, or if you’re one of those limber yogis, just straddle up to a full length mirror, and open your legs all the way, so you can get a good look at yourself. If you’re not that limber, just lie on your back frog-legged and hold the mirror where you can see yourself.

Step 2: Take a gander at yourself, and release all judgment. If you hear yourself saying, “Ewww…how ugly,” trying turning your negative thought into an affirmation, such as “Thank you, vulva, for protecting my delicate vagina from the outside world,” or something like that. You’d be surprised how many women have never done this and really don’t know what’s what. How can you Own Your Body if you’ve never even looked at it? Make a commitment to knowing and loving your body, just as it is.

Step 3: Approaching your body with a sense of gratitude, let’s begin the Pretty Pink Pussy Tour. (Yes, the name is meant to make you smile. But first I have to tell you a funny story. I was giving a lecture to a group of lesbians, and when I started talking about the Pretty Pink Pussy, one of them piped up, “Finally, a gynecologist who can say the word Pussy without flinching.” I felt all fluffed up like a peacock, to get this compliment from a group of women who really know Pussies.)

The Vulva and Clitoris

But back to the tour. First, let me get you oriented. When you look in the mirror, you’re going to see a mound of pubic hair at the top- this is called the mons pubis. It doesn’t serve much function other than alerting your sexual partern that there are some good gems hidden underneath your bush.

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