10 Signs You're Not Ready For A Relationship


Is it time to take a break from the search for a partner?

If you find yourself frustrated and unsuccessful in dating, it could be that you are not really ready to be in a relationship. You may feel a bit lonely or feel pressure of family or peers to be a couple, but you may want to consider if being single for now is the better option for you. You may want to take time off from dating or re-evaluate if it is realistic for you to be in a serious relationship. Perhaps embrace single life and its benefits. Here are the 10 signs that being single might be best for you right now.

  1. You frequently list all the unappealing characteristics of men your age: Your focus is on the opposite sex letting themselves go physically such as having a beer belly or protruding nose hair instead of looking for a fit and toned partner.
  2. You never achieved closure with your ex or exes: You flirt with getting back together with one of your former partners.
  3. You engage in "friends with benefits" or casual sex": You don't view sex as a deep sacred connection, but rather recreation.
  4. Reading one of the books on your nightstand is the climax of your day: You dream of spending time with you favorite characters and being swept away in the story of your current novel.
  5. You hold onto past baggage: Your former troubles or single status have become your identity.
  6. You love your freedom above all else: Your daily routine has become about perfect and someone else's slightly different style would drive you nuts.
  7. There is not an inch of space in your bedroom or your life for a man to fit into: Your closets are packed full as is every hour of your schedule.
  8. You feel incomplete without a partner: If you can't find happiness with yourself and expect someone else to make you happy, you are looking in the wrong place.
  9. Your dog or cat have become your lover: You snuggle and whisper words of endearment into the ears of your furry companion as you crawl into bed together.
  10. You have the attitude "been there, done that:" You aren't completely sure relationships are worth the effort or responsibility.

You may have experienced some of these 10 signs at one time or another, but if they come to mind regularly as you date or think about dating, take a break. Sometimes being single is underestimated in its value. Your single time can be fun and fulfilling if you work on yourself, cultivate friendships and relax into that phase of your life. Be where you are now and consider deeply if what is really missing from your life is a relationship or something else.

If you don't fit with any of these 10 signs and are still single and looking, then perservere. Have patience and continue searching as dating can be a numbers game and a search for a chemistry match. As best you can, be content with what is your current reality and stay open to change and opportunities when they come your way.

If you would like to explore the benefits of being single or more reasons why you are still single, read “3 Benefits of Being Single” and “Still Single? 11 You May Not Have Found ‘The One’ Yet" also written on YourTango. And also consider “8 Steps To Finding That Perfect Relationship” if you want to put more effort into finding your match.

Let's connect on Facebook or Twitter and I'll share more healthy dating and relationship tips with you. And learn more about me and the books I have written by visiting my website: www.LisaJShultz.com.


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