Matchmaking: Back To The Basics


Matchmaking: Back To The Basics
Let's ditch TV, and get back to reality. How can a professional matchmaker help you?

Now more than ever, Matchmaking has become a prevalent part of our popular culture.  With shows like Millionaire Matchmaker, Tough Love, and Love Broker, going to a matchmaker is a mainstream concept. Singles are excited about a chance to get offline, and utilize a personalized service. Viewers love seeing how dates pan out, and the tips that the expert Matchmakers give along the way.

The problem, however, is that most people only know about matchmaking from what they have seen on TV. This Hollywood view of the industry has caused many not to realize that using a matchmaker (or becoming one themselves) is a real and viable option.


I have noticed after over ten years in the love industry, that when it comes to finding love there is often a stigma around getting help. But think about it…we engage experts to help us be the best we can in all areas of life.  We hire an accountant to complete our tax forms, we hire a real estate agent to help us find a home, and we even hire a personal trainer to keep our weight goals on track and our body in shape.  So, why do we feel reluctant seeking help when it comes to the most complicated and pleasurable aspect—our love life?

Our personal love life tends to be the most neglected area and yet is actually the most important in terms of overall happiness. I have witnessed great sadness and isolation in people who feel they just can’t find someone who is right for them. They have tried looking in bars, going to parties, and even searching online to meet that special someone…with absolutely no luck. 

As a professional matchmaker, I am here to tell you that I have seen and helped people who felt love is impossible for them find the impossible.  Love does have the power to transform your life, and it is available to everyone! No matter where you live, or what your circumstances are, everyone is deserving. It’s important to know that you don’t have to be in a big city, or on TV to take advantage of the help a matchmaker can offer you.

My hope with this series of articles is to bring the reality of the matchmaking industry to the foreground. By giving you insight into what a matchmaker's job is, where they came from historically, how to find one, and what questions to ask when you do, you will be able to decide if utilizing a matchmaker is right for you.  Perhaps you will even want to become one yourself!

So, please join me next week as we go back to the basics of matchmaking.

If you have any questions, please feel free to reach out to me! To learn more about becomming a matchmaker, or finding a matchmaker that is right for you, visit

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Article contributed by

Lisa Clampitt


Lisa Clampitt, LMSW, CMM

President, Matchmaking Institute and VIP Life

Location: New York, NY
Credentials: LMSWCC, MSW
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