5 Things You MUST Do To Open Yourself To Finding Real Love

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What you do now determines what kind of partner you find later.

Are you interested in finding a lasting, committed relationship? 

Well get on that path not and begin to walk it.

There will, of course, be times of confusion and feelings of hopelessness along with other roadblocks, but as with any path taken, navigating around those roadblocks is the key to getting where you want to go. This path is taking you to a life partner.

Besides roadblocks, there are valid things to learn on this path. Understand that we all have a certain amount of healing to do. Healing steps. These steps bring us closer to our true self. 

So, to get ready for love that lasts, here are 5 things you must do first: 

1. Learn to love yourself.


Have you been in love before? Did you get your heart broken? After a few experiences of that, eventually you have to look at yourself and wonder: What is up with me? I am a lovable, awesome person, what is the deal?

Well, let me ask you — do you love yourself? Hmmmm, how exactly do you do that? Isn't love something we give to or get from others? The answer is "yes," but also "no."  Because learning to love ourselves must come first. Being in a healthy relationship with yourself is a crucial step on your path to a healthy, lasting, committed relationship.

2. Open your heart.


Everyone has a past. Often times, it's difficult not to get caught up in that pas and the feelings and memories associated with it. Opening your heart means to breath some new air into your life. There is plenty of room.

It's not necessary to let go of everything so your heart is empty before meeting the "the one". But, it is necessary to let go of limiting thoughts and feelings from the past that might work against you in a new relationship. 

3. Make a list of what you want. 


Sure, this has been done. Everyone says to make a list. It is, however, a very powerful exercise to perform.

Create a list of the qualities you're looking for in a partner. What is most important to you? Over the course of time while you're traveling your path, you can refine the list as needed. In order to find what you want, you really need a clear idea of what you're looking for.

4. Learn how to love being single.


Does this sound strange? It's really not. Think about it. You don't know when or where you'll find your life partner. In the meantime, you're single. What positivity can come from this?

A romantic relationship is not everything. It is one part of your life. Live your life, make your plan, and enjoy your time. If you aren't in love with yourself first, what kind of partner will you attract?

5. Sit with grief.


It's perfectly fine to feel sadness. It's perfectly normal to feel a bit of heaviness in your heart. Grieve whatever you're hanging on to: The loss of a loved one, a divorce, a job, a past relationship.

Feel the sadness, then focus on the life experience those losses brought you. Your heart will open. You will become more open to life's experiences. Honestly grieving helps you let go of the past and make sure you're not looking for someone to take away your sadness, but, instead, someone to create new happiness with.

The bottom line is to love yourself. Be good with yourself.

Don't base your eternal happiness on whether you have someone else to share your life with, because you have you! You need to live your life to your best potential first.

Stay on your path. Develop yourself. Love will come.


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