Married To ADD: 7 Difficulties To Expect

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Married To ADD: 7 Difficulties To Expect [EXPERT]
Learn the predictable patterns associated with being married to someone with untreated ADD.

The challenges facing a person who is married to someone with untreated Attention Deficit Disorder, or ADD, can be difficult to navigate.

These challenges may be completely hidden to the rest of the world. No one seems to understand what you struggle with. Your spouse is such a "great guy" and may appear "together" to everyone else.

This article attempts to address some of the predictable patterns that one may experience being married to someone with ADD and why it creates such difficulty. 5 Ways To Keep Married Sex Exciting

Being married to someone with untreated ADD is often fraught with a predictable progressive pattern that goes from happy to confused to angry, and finally, to hopeless. How does this happen and why is this so predictable in couples whose spouses have untreated ADD? 

In an attempt to answer that question let's look at some of the patterns that typically come up in these kinds of relationships.  It is important to recognize the symptoms of ADD, especially if you suspect your relationship might struggle due to this disorder.

In the beginning phase of the courtship between you and your ADD spouse, you may have been completely swept off your feet or ravished with both attention and affection, while being the primary focus of your partner's life. His "hyperfocus" on the relationship probably felt intoxicating and romantic. But, this feeling faded over time.

When someone with ADD enters into a new romantic relationship, the initial excitement feels so stimulating to the ADD brain (which is being flooded with adrenaline and endorphins) that it causes the person to completely turn their attention to you. However, this kind of excitement diminishes over time, along with the adrenaline rush as the ADD spouse looks elsewhere for stimulation.

Of course, this is not conscious on his part, and he may not even be aware that this has happened. However, as time goes on, the non-ADD partner may experience the following seven feelings associated with his/her spouse's need to find stimulation in places outside of the marital relationship:

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