Love Outlook: Update Your Fairytale

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Love Outlook: Update Your Fairytale
Why your childhood fantasy deserves an adult perspective

As children, most girls are introduced to Disney movies before the ability to speak in complete sentences. While Cinderella, Beauty and the Beast and The Little Mermaid are inspirational on many levels, the fairytale element is the same: Guy likes girl, guy woos girl, guy and girl live happily ever after.

But in today’s society, this is no longer the norm. It may be: Girl likes guy, girl finds mutual friend on Facebook and inquires about him, friend divulges recent messy breakup, girl Facebook stalks his ex, guy changes his relationship status to “it’s complicated,” girl unfriends guy. Then 6 months later, guy and girl meet at a party, girl decides she doesn’t like guy, meanwhile guy falls for girl hard.

It’s unlikely that guy will ever sweep girl off to his castle. Though today, it may be a penthouse, a brownstone or a ranch. His horse and carriage may be a limo, a Harley or a convertible. And his armor may be an Armani suit, jeans and a button down or shorts and a tee.

Besides, standard issue shouldn’t apply to your love life. So, it’s time to download Prince Charming’s update. But while you’re waiting for Knight in Shining Armor 2.0 to load, remember that no one is perfect on paper. Fantasizing about your perfect match in too much detail will prove limiting. 

Similar to the rest of life: You can’t write the happy ending; you need to live it. 

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Laurie Davis

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Laurie Davis is an online dating expert and the author of Love @ First Click: The Ultimate Guide to Online Dating. Her company, eFlirt Expert, helps singles navigate flirting and relationships via technology by writing their online dating profiles, decoding their dates’ text messages, managing their digital dating lives, and helping them transition to meaningful, offline relationships. Laurie was nominated Best Dating Coach in the 2013 and 2012 iDate Awards and her advice has been featured in over 200 international media outlets including The New York Times, Good Morning America, Forbes, Men’s Health and Elle. She is engaged to her tweetheart who she eFlirted with in 140 characters on Twitter. Connect with her on Twitter and Facebook!

Location: New York, NY
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