If you've ever been to a Crossfit gym, you know that the workouts are no joke. Crossfit is defined as constantly varied, functional, high intensity training. Classes start with a warmup that's hardly just a warmup, then a skill set that makes you feel the burn, and finally the Workout of the Day. By the end of class, you feel both energized for the next workout and you feel like dying. Dating can make you feel the same way.
If you're single, applying that intense Crossfit-type motivation to your dating life is what will get you results. Gone are the days of "It'll happen when you least expect it." If you're single and you want to change your status, you have to be proactive. You don't get fit by being inactive, and you are in control of change in your life. So apply these Crossfit principles to your dating life, and get fit in body and heart.
- Set Goals: When you're doing a Crossfit workout, you are forced to set personal goals for yourself, whether it's doing a workout within a certain time frame or completing a certain number of exercises. In dating, setting goals for yourself forces you to set aside the time and energy for your dating life. Make dating a priority, and good things will come. That can mean anything from setting a goal of 3 dates a month, or getting out of your house once a month to meet new people.
- Be Publicly Accountable: At the end of each Crossfit workout, you post your results for the Workout of the Day on a white board for the whole gym to see for the rest of the day. That public information makes you accountable. It also sets the culture for a community of people working together toward the common goal of fitness. I'm definitely not proposing that you go public with personal details of your dating life, but you have to put out into the universe that you're ready and willing to meet someone. Letting your community know you're interested sends the message to the world that you're ready. The people who genuinely love and care about you will be supportive and encouraging.
- Be Brazen: It's terrifying to think of deadlifting 200 pounds, or climbing a rope 20 feet high. But goal-setting and a can-do attitude get those Crossfitters to the place where they finally can. Just like with dating, you have to step outside of your comfort zone. Try new people, try new things, and be bold. Go to an event alone to meet new people; go on a blind date; ask your crush out on a date.
- Get Constant Variety: Crossfit workouts are varied, so you'll never do the same workout two days in a row. It's easy to get into a funk with your workout, just like with dating. So it's time to spice it up. Only going out with people who are of a certain "type" and following the same routine aren't going to change anything for you. Explore new people, check out new events, make each day new and interesting. The variety will open you up for all kinds of possibilities.
Crossfit athletes are intense. They're motivated and even intimidating. But they all started somewhere. Dating may seem like a daunting task, but you've got to start somewhere too, and you'll never reach your goal unless you start working toward it. So, get ready to break a sweat and make love happen.
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