We have all read the headline "Women Would Rather Sleep than Have Sex." For many women, this statement proves truer than they would like. It's not that women do not enjoy having sex, or that they get more excitement from these other things. The problem is that there are distractions getting in the way of having a satisfying and fulfilling sex life. It's true that the secret to sexual satisfaction lies in that region between the left ear and the right ear (the brain). When it comes to women and sex, there are a number of things that can run interference with sexual satisfaction.
Here are five blocks to sexual satisfaction and what can be done about them:
1. Poor Communication With Partner
The quality of the relationship with a partner can seriously impact the quality of a woman's sexual experiences. When a woman is not feeling loved, respected and appreciated by her partner, the last thing she wants to do is have sex with him. Having sex is directly attached to her emotions. If she is upset, angry or resentful towards her mate, sex is probably not going to happen. If it does happen, it will most likely be out of obligation with little or no satisfaction for her.
What Can Be Done:
The obvious answer would be to improve the quality of your relationship with your partner. If you focus on improving your relationship first, then your sex will generally improve as a result. Determine what is keeping you from having a satisfying relationship. Sometimes you can do it on your own by communicating effectively with your partner. If you find yourself doing the same things over and over to no avail, perhaps it's time to call in the professionals. Either way, if your relationship matters to you then it is worth taking action. Could Couples Therapy Really Save Us?
2. Busy Schedule
Juggling life and its many activities can easily take a toll on a person's sex drive. Many women are having a difficult time managing all of the roles they have in life. After working all day, cooking dinner, cleaning up after dinner, taking children to athletic practice, and going to an advisory board meeting, the last thing on your mind is sex. What you really want is to find a quiet place to be alone to regroup. Instead of finding sex enjoyable and satisfying, the busy woman sees sex as one more task on to the "to do" list.
What Can Be Done:
Reduce your load and prioritize your relationship and sex life. While all of those activities may seem necessary, in the big scheme of things, they really aren't as important as maintaining a healthy relationship and sex life with your partner. Sometimes you may feel like you have to do it all, but you don't. Delegate the activities that you can to someone else. This is not only beneficial to your sex life, but it is beneficial to your overall well-being. When you cut down on some of your activities, you will find yourself feeling less stressed and your mood will improve. 5 Tips For Great Sex Even When You're Busy
3. Sexual Boredom
Women want more out of their sexual relationships than having sex in the same place, the same way, and at the same time. A predictable sex life is generally associated with a boring sex life which can lead to dissatisfaction. Sexual boredom is the most likely cause for the statement "Not tonight, honey."
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To really make this advice work, you need to follow these action steps to complete today's challenge.
Right now, I want you to:
Write down the things that are keeping you from having a satisfying sex life, and what you are willing to do today to change things. Next I would like for you to share these things with your partner.
Within 7 days I want you to:
Begin making the changes that will improve the quality of your sex life. Write down what would be an idea sexual experience for you, and make it your purpose to have at least one satisfying sexual experience this week.
By the end of the challenge I want you to:
Feel rejuvenated about your sex life and continue to be intentional about making it satisfying. Prioritize your sex life by keeping the distractions at bay. Be intentional about having satisfying sexual experiences. Have a minimum of four sexually satisfying experiences this month, even if you have to add them to your calendar. Lastly, continue to desire a satisfying sex life beyond the end of this challenge.