The 3-Step Dating Declaration To Find Love


Independence Day: The 3-Step Dating Declaration To Find Love
Repeating these powerful mantrams will help bring love into your life right now.

There is nothing like a holiday to remind us either that we haven't gotten over a past love or that we're single and wanting more. Well, I hope you're ready to change that this Fourth of July, because this short and potently sweet three-step process never fails to deliver.

What? Three easy steps to bringing love into your life, you say? Yes, this Independence Day, give your mind a break. You are going to use a method of verbal declaration called a mantram (different from a "mantra"). The basic principle is this: When you make a verbal declaration, your brain listens to what you are saying out loud and has no choice but to find a way of making your declaration a reality. Believe it! Science has proven the effect and numerous books are published documenting the success of this. Look at it this way: You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Step 1: Say out loud at least three times in succession: "I declare myself independent and free of all past relationships right now!" It's important to say "right now." You are telling your brain and your body what is, not what was or what could be.

Step 2: Make a short list of what a loving partner in your life would look like. Select the three or four things that are most important to you in a romantic relationship. For example, let's say you want a relationship in which you're inspired by your partner and they're inspired by you. You want your desires for each other to be equally strong. You want to be seen for who you truly are and not something made up out of need or projection. You want your hearts to be open, transparent, and vulnerable, and you want great sex that keeps getting better. Keep reading...

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*Larry Michel*

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Come from a place of unconditional love—seek to see before you seek to be seen.

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