How Meryl Streep & Don Gummer Disprove The Oscar Curse


Why Meryl Streep & Don Gummer Disprove The Oscar Curse [EXPERT]
The curse has more to do with sexual chemistry than winning Oscar gold.

Reporters have been writing for years about the curse of the Oscars. If you haven't heard about it, the contention is that when you win an Academy Award for Best Actress, your world—and more specifically—your marriage will fall apart.

It has even been said that potential award-winning actresses have underperformed in fear of putting a jinx on their relationships.

A number of Best Actresses have suffered from this "curse": Hilary Swank and Reese Witherspoon divorced shortly after winning, and Gwyneth Paltrow, Julia Roberts, Halle Berry, Kate Winslet and Sandra Bullock all had similar disasters in their personal relationships.

But, if you truly believe this silly curse, then you haven't watched enough episodes of Scooby Doo! Scooby and the team always prove their dreaded curses wrong, and the latest Best Actress winner, Meryl Streep, and her husband Don Gummer are the best proof that the Oscar curse has never existed. Is There Really A Best Actress Oscar Curse?

Streep won her first Academy Award for Best Actress in 1982 for Sophie's Choice, and her second this year for The Iron Lady. She's been with her husband way before she took home a golden statue (1978, to be exact). I seriously doubt that after almost 44 years their marriage will fall victim to anything related to the Oscars.

The Best Actress curse has simply been a Hollywood play on superstitions, and here's the proof.

The Energetic Proof

My specialty is looking at the energetic potential of relationships. These are hard-wired energetic patterns that, like our blood type, don't change. When we look at the energetics between two people, we can predict some very specific advantages or challenges.

I looked at the lineup of Best Actress Oscar winners to see if there was anything worth noting to prove the curse theory.

At the time of their wins, Hillary Swank, Reese Witherspoon, Gwyneth Paltrow, Halle Berry and Kate Winslet were all in relationships that were not a good sexual match. Our research has shown that when couples are mismatched sexually, the relationship can start out well, but most often deteriorates after a few months or years. This fits with the timelines of most these award winners’ failed relationships. What Jennifer Aniston & Justin Theroux's Love Is Missing

On the other hand, Sandra Bullock and Julia Roberts did not have this mismatch with their men, so we have to chalk up those failed relationships to other circumstances.

Meryl Streep and Don Gummer have an excellent energetic match except for their sexual compatibility. And yet, they appear to have a very successful relationship. (With four children, we know they were at least successful four times!)

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