Accepting a compliment, especially from a man, has never been easy for me. In fact, I probably spent most of my life shutting their compliments down before they could even get the words out. "You look amazing," he would say. My response: "Oh god, what are you looking at? You need to get your eyes checked." Overcome Insecurity & Spice Up Your Sex Life In 5 Steps
"You have such a cute figure." "Yeah right! Have you seen the cellulite on the back of my ass or my flabby thighs? Yuck!" "That color looks great on you." "Sure. Whatever you say, this is all I had in my closet that didn’t make me look horrible." If you are a woman shaking your head thinking, "Wow, I do that. That's how I respond to his compliments," you may be ruining your relationship.
Think about it. Why would any man want to be around someone who can't accept a compliment? When a woman has a hard time accepting a man's love and praise, it gets old quick. For starters, it usually means that the woman they are complimenting is seriously insecure, and being insecure means he has to constantly reassure her. Constantly reassuring her is a royal pain in the ass.
The truth is, you do not have to agree with his compliment. Hell, you don't even have to believe it, but you do have to graciously accept it. Why? Because by shutting him down, you are not only "emotionally castrating" him, you are inadvertently calling him a liar. Ahem, essentially you are acting like a total bitch! There, I said it. How To Train Your Man [VIDEO]
So, if you are one of those women who complains to your girlfriend that your husband or boyfriend never tells you how beautiful, sexy, smart, or (insert adjective) you are anymore, maybe you should take note or recall how you reacted toward his loving words when he was expressing his feelings to you.
So, what can you do to shift this and to avoid unconsciously slapping down the man you love?
1. Learn to take a compliment.
When he offers you a compliment, smile and say thank you, even if you don't believe a word of it. Remember, it doesn't matter what you think, it's the way they feel and they are entitled to their thoughts, just as you are. This is easier said than done but with some practice, it's definitely possible, and honestly, once you start accepting his "truth," your relationship will flourish. 4 Ways You Can Learn To Love Your Body
2. Learn to love and compliment yourself.
I know you might be thinking, "Yeah right. Loving myself is impossible." I used to think that too but the reality is, once you can lighten up and learn to appreciate and love yourself, then and only then can you truly, wholeheartedly love someone else. 4 Ways To Not Annoy Your Man
Barbara De Angelis said, "If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself." I couldn't have said it better.