10 Ways To Keep Him From Cheating

By Kim Olver. Posted on Nov 30th 2012.

Try these 10 ways to prevent infidelity in your relationship!

Most men do not cheat because they don't love you anymore. Men cheat because they want more variety in their sex lives. Some complain of being bored. They want to feel adored by their partners; they want to asert their freedom; they are tired of disappointing you; they want a partner who places them at the center of their life, and they no longer feel like the priority in yours.

Sometimes it's because you are speaking different love languages, and some men say it is a biological directive to procreate with as many women as possible for survival of the species. Whatever the reason, men have an innate need to feel respected and appreciated by their partners. It is most disconcerting for a man to realize he has disappointed his partner in some way. He wants to be her hero.

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So, here are 10 ways to prevent your man from cheating:

1. Be willing to initiate sex. Men equate sex with desirability. Help your man to feel desired by expressing your love in a physical way.

2. Be open to experimentation. It can be easy to get comfortable and fear of the unknown can stop you from being open to different sexual experiences. Allow your man to try new things with you. If you won't, there will be someone else who will. I'm not saying to engage in sexual activity you find repulsive but allow yourself to experience new things with the man you love.

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3. Don't over-accomodate. Sometimes in a relationship, a woman can become too accommodating. Men get into relationships with a very clear picture of what a lifetime partner looks like and this is often in stark contrast to whom he may have dated casually. Women work to become the person their partner wants them to be and in doing so, they lose themselves. One day, their man realizes this is what he asked for but he isn't sure it's what he really wants. Maintain a healthy sense of self in your relationship.

Kim Olver

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