Why He Hasn't Called You Back


Why He Hasn't Called You Back [EXPERT]
Are you still waiting by the phone?
Have you considered the possibility that he's just not that into you?

Too often I talk with women who have every excuse in the book for why the guys they are dating haven't gotten back to them in a timely manner. "It's just a bad time for him;" "He's been really busy with work;" "He was out of town for a few days and probably just hasn't had time to cal;" or, my favorite, "His computer crashed and his cell phone fell in the toilet.” I call foul on all of these excuses.

Are there times when life gets in the way and it's harder to get together with people or we're too stressed to cope with relationships? Absolutely. However, in this day and age, where cell phones are practically attached to us, we should be able to at least send a quick note to someone to let them know we are thinking about them and will be back in circulation soon. So, if a guy can't even do that? Well, then, as Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo have told us, he's just not that into you.

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If we want something in life, we make it happen. Motivation comes from desire. If a guy can't even be bothered to text you, what do you think he is saying about how high you are on his priority list? Are you supposed to sit around and wait for him because he's a guy with a pulse and you're lonely? No. You need to recognize that you will only be happy with someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him.

How much are you worth? A phone call? Following through on a commitment like a scheduled date? An email response within a week? If he can't get it together to do these things, set yourself free and open yourself up to the next opportunity.

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We get so worried about what if this is "the one" and I'm going to blow it because I didn't pick up the phone when he called or I didn't get back to him fast enough or I got back to him too fast. What about the idea that he is the one blowing it? He's the one missing out on a great opportunity by not being interested enough to give the opportunity a chance. It's not just your responsibility to do everything right to land a husband; he has to hold up his end, too.

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