Last month when I was having all that fun celebrating my birthday I had a realization brought about by blowing out my candles numerous times.
Each time I did I made three wishes.
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I realize this must come from various fairy tales and fables where the main character is given three wishes. Many times this doesn't work out very well for them, I seem to remember.
They wish for something too small or too big or in some way not right. The big tragedy in the stories, at least the way I remember them, is that the three wishes are wasted!
I learned that lesson long ago. I also noted other wish-making lessons, such as, Be careful what you Wish for, and other cautionary tales, so I take making wishes very seriously. I learned to listen to my heart when making wishes of any kind. Making wishes can be a magical process, by just speaking simply of a desire in our heart.
Many years ago, my first husband and I had hit a rough spot in our marriage and for some reason I thought of the the wish-making ritual. I suggested that instead of focusing on what we didn't like, we each come up with three wishes we had for our relationship.
The three-wish magic came through once more. When forced to actually name and claim what we most want in our heart-of-hearts, somehow the ego takes a back seat to the more important elements.
From those wishes we created our own relationship mission statement that guided us for many years.
I noticed some wonderful things during my birthday candle blowing ceremonies when I thought of the three wishes I had for the coming year.
I knew exactly what I wanted.
What I wanted felt good, not too big or too small. It felt just right. I felt the desire and then let it go as I blew out my candles!
I was reminded of the magic that happens every day when I focus on what I have in my heart.
Have some fun this week by making up a three-wish ritual for yourself. You don't have to wait until your birthday OR to be in a tough spot!
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Begin by checking your ego at the door.
Let go of fears and the fantasies that often come with fears. Then open your heart and simply ask yourself.
If I could have three wishes come true, what would they be?