3 Simple Steps To Improve Your Self-Confidence [EXPERT]

When was the last time you felt confident? Today? Yesterday? Can you even remember?

There is a confidence crisis among women these days, especially in the workplace. And, of course, we all know that what happens at work affects the rest of our lives. Still, women are lacking the confidence to speak up, put forward their two cents, or be acknowledged for a job well done. Does this sound familiar to you?

At first the idea seemed foreign to me. Then, I started reflecting on the women in my life and realized that yes, in fact, nearly all of my conversations among friends and associates carry within them the undercurrent of lacking the self-assurance to boldly live their lives. Who knew?!

Take a moment to rank your self-assurance right now. 10 is very confident (you speak your point of view; you offer your perspective in group settings; you form conclusions quickly without second-guessing) and zero is low or no self-assurance (you hold your thoughts and remarks back because you believe no one wishes to listen to them; you are unable to make up your mind; you are not able to make a decision without wanting to ask at least three people their opinions).

Does your response surprise you? What if you and four friends each ranked yourselves, then tried to guess how others ranked themselves. Do you think you'd be close in your guess? Are You Psychic? Understanding Your Sixth Sense EXPERT

Did you know you were born with two accounts? It's true. You were born with two very specialized, permanent accounts that all of your actions, decisions and experiences either makedeposit into or withdraw from. The first account holds your integrity and the second contains your self-assurance or confidence. The difference between these two accounts is that you're born with your integrity account full and your confidence account empty.

The reason for the difference is that as an infant, you are expected to rely on those who care for you and, accordingly, begin making deposits into your confidence account. Your integrity is full based on the notion that everything you do is aligned with your integrity at birth, as you are in the max-learning stage. That is, you don't know any better. You  lack from which to draw to make decisions, and therefore you must trust that what you're taught supports your life's objective.

As you progress through life, your actions and decisions impact these two accounts depending on (1) whether or not you decide to live with integrity and (2) whether or not you continue to mature and develop your self-confidence. If your decisions support your integrity, your account balance stays put; if not, then a withdrawal occurs. To make a deposit into your integrity account entails a lot more work. You need to restore your integrity, and that takes time. As well, your actions and judgements affect your self-confidence, but your self-confidence is also affected by your reactions to how others respond to your decisions.