Recently, a woman in one of my Private Support Group sessions asked me how to get her boyfriend to compliment her. It felt like it was so important to her that if he didn't do it soon, she would push him away.
This is a common problem that befalls many relationships. One person thinks the other needs to show their love in a particular way, or in the same way that they do. For instance, in Bruno Mars' song, "Grenade," he sings: "I'd catch a grenade for you, stand in front of a train for you… but you won’t do the same for me."
If you find you regularly need compliments from your partner and complain when you don't get them, I invite you to search your inner self to discover why you need these affirmations. When you understand this hidden truth, you can be more clear about what you want.
If you genuinely want honest feedback from your men, try sitting on his lap when you are feeling pretty and ask him, "Do you like how I look?" Or, when you’re naked with him and you know he's into you, ask in a playful, sexy way, "Am I sexy?" In these situations, he will answer honestly.
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