It can be hard with the busy lives we lead to make time for erotic escape. Here are 5 simple tips!
Sharing your fantasies with your partner is an important first step to bringing them to life. If you don’t talk about what you want, how are you ever going to get it? There are a variety of ways to have this ‘conversation’ but the main goal is to get these sexy thoughts out of your head & into real life!
Settle in for a sexy “You Share, I’ll Share” evening of naughty talk. Put the lights down low, get in close contact with one another and start talking! You can do a word association, each of you saying a word that turns you on with your partner responding with a word that turns them until you’re both feeling hot and heavy. This takes the pressure off of forming coherent sentences or spelling out your desires.
Another way to exchange fantasies is to find erotica that you can read to each other. With ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ being sold in book stores, airports and even grocery stores it can be an easy way to introduce kinky fantasies. But that’s not the only sexy smut available, not by a long shot! Look for erotica online, print out your favorite parts and leave them as notes for each other during the day. Or take turns reading the hottest portions out loud to each other at the end of the night while you snuggle in bed. Who knows where your verbal foreplay might take you…
A journal is a great way to start a back-and-forth sexy conversation. Keep a blank notebook next to your bed (or in a drawer if you’re worried about prying eyes!) with a pen handy and when you have a hot thought, jot it down to be shared later. You can either use the journal to read to one another, or to take a peek into your partner’s fantasies without having to actually speak out loud about it. This can be a particularly helpful technique if one or both partners are shy.
You can also explore ‘dirty’ talk while you’re fooling around. Start to explore making-out again, without the pressure of following it all the way to climax. Kiss each other passionately and whisper sexy words into each other’s ears. If you do it in the dark you might feel less inhibited so you can really let your imagination fly.
However you choose to share your sexy thoughts is up to what works for you and your partner. But starting to use any of these techniques will make it easier for both of you to enjoy more adventurous erotic encounters.
With the world-wide phenomenon that the ‘Fifty Shades Of Grey” trilogy has become it’s impossible to escape the media coverage, the ecstatic fan base and the conversation it’s all stirred up. The most important aspect of these books is the permission they give to read, enjoy and even live out kinky fantasies. If these books have inspired some interest in ‘S&M’ here are some easy ways to introduce it into your sex life.
One of the central themes of the trilogy is dominance and submission. This is a power dynamic where one partner chooses to ‘give up’ control to the other partner. The books take it to a rather intense level, but you can go a little easier. Allowing your lover to ‘order you around’ or vice versa can take on a sensual feeling of letting go. This feeling can lead to a heightened sense of connection and trust.
A simple blindfold can go a long way! By shutting off one of the senses the body is forced to focus on what its feeling. The usual choices for a blind fold are pretty easy to get, in fact you might already have something on hand. A scarf or bandanna, a silk tie, stockings or one of those eye covers you can find in the relaxation aisle of your local drugstore would all do the job. Even just keeping your eyes closed can work, but having something physically deny sight will create a much stronger feeling of vulnerability.
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Speaking of vulnerability, light restraint can also add to the experience of giving up control. Again you don’t need any special items to use, a scarf or silk tie (if you’re REALLY into the book, find a special grey silk tie!) even a thin leather belt can be used to take it up a notch. When you start introducing restraint into your sex life be sure to take it in small stages so that everyone feels comfortable. You can always raise the intensity next time!
These can be the first simple steps to exploring your newly inspired kinky curiosity and will give you both you and your lover an opportunity to ease into these kinds of new experiences. Regardless, make sure you have a chance to talk about what the new explorations felt like.
With the economy the way it is and many people scrambling to keep their heads above water, it can be easy to let our erotic connections end up on the bottom of the to-do list. But having a happy sex life can improve your quality of life overall. So here are 5 simple tips to keeping your erotic motor revving and your sex life hot.
I know it can be hard with hectic comings and goings, but take a few minutes before you leave in the morning and when you get home in the evening to great each other with a kiss, a look into each other’s eyes to take a moment to see each other as lovers. This simple act can strengthen your relationship even among the chaos.
Schedule a date time. If you can make it out of the house, great! Go to the movies and sneak some make-out time in the back of the theatre. Find a restaurant that uses long table covers and play footsies underneath. Sit close to each other and eat your food sensually and share the pleasure of each other’s company. If you can get out of the house, find a way to have quiet time together and stroke each other’s skin sensually. No matter who’s in the room you can appreciate the feeling of each other’s bodies
Use index cards to spur sexy time! When either one of you gets an idea for something sexy to do together, jot it down on a card and keep the cards in a special place (you can hide it if you’re worried about prying eyes!). Then, when you do have time share some pleasure you can grab a card to give you an inspiring start!
Did you know a kitchen timer can be a sex toy?! With the go, go, go nature of life these days there doesn’t seem to be 5 extra minutes in the day. But there is, you just have to fit it in. Grab your kitchen timer and set it for 5 minutes. Now kiss like you mean it! Have a hot and heavy quickie with your lips pressed together and your bodies touching and then when the timer goes off, go back to whatever you were doing. It’s a very fun game!
Leave sexy voice messages for each other. During the work day sneak off to some place private and leave a tantalizing suggestion of what you’d like to do to your lover. It doesn’t have to be a long message, just something to let them know you’re having hot thoughts about them.
So don’t think you have to sacrifice your love life because of a busy schedule! Make it priority and you’ll find the sexual tension building and sex moving up on your to-do list.