7 Steps To Get To The First Online Date


7 Steps To Get To The First Online Date
A new survey found that movie date ideas and fast response times will speed up your success.

Overwhelmed with online dating, but underwhelmed with an empty inbox?

If you're busy sending emails to potential dates online and are frustrated with the lack of response, our friends at online dating site Zoosk have come up with some simple suggestions on how to move the process along in their 7-Step Guide to Landing a Date.


Here's a recap, along with a cool infographic, to help ramp up your dating life.

1. Send emails in the morning if you're a man; in the evening if you're a woman.

Guys will increase their chances of a response by 10 percent if they send emails between 9am and 10am. While the best time for women to send email messages is between 10pm and 11pm. So ladies, send that flirty email and go to sleep with a smile on your face. But, avoid sending an email from 2pm – 3pm.

2. Respond within 24 hours.

As for when you should respond to an email, 94 percent of those surveyed said within 24 hours. I have to agree with this one. Remember when someone is emailing you, they're sending emails to many others. Often, the squeaky wheel gets the deal. Playing too hard to get will likely backfire.

3. Add a date activity to make it easier for someone to schedule a date you'd enjoy

In the recent survey of 3000 of their members, Zoosk found that mentioning movies as a favorite activity in you profile and even suggesting a movie date increases your response rate by 91 percent. That's a big number and one worth viewing film trailers for. Other keywords included the beach (59 percent) and a park (39 percent).

4. Focus on what makes you unique.

If you want to stand out in a crowded digital playground, talk about your date's hair, their gorgeous eyes, fun glasses and even their tattoo. Remember to be flirty, but stay away from the sexual comments, which received a digital thumbs down from Zooskers.

One of the biggest challenges I see singles struggling with is what to write in their first email. First impressions really do matter. It should be more than, "hey." 

5. Character count matters.

Guys didn't seem to care how long the first message was from a woman. But 40 percent of the women did indeed want to see a message that was longer than a full-length tweet of 140 characters.

6. Expect to send five emails.

How long will it take to get to the first date? About half of the singles polled said they send five email exchanges before putting his or her name on their date card.

7. Finally! Schedule that first date.

If you follow these steps, you're more likely to take your online date offline and have an enjoyable time IRL.

Are you ready to pay attention to when you push the send button?

Julie Spira is America's Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was a very early adopter of the Internet, having created her first profile two decades ago. Julie's the founder of CyberDatingExpert.com and creates Irresistible Profiles for singles and coaches them on how to find their dream date. Ready to learn more? Contact Julie for a free 15 minute consultation and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.

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Julie Spira is America's Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She's the bestselling author of  The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and is the host of #DateChat on Twitter on Thursdays at 5pm/PT, 8pm /ET.  Julie writes and teaches about Internet etiquette and is writing The Rules of Netiquette: How to Mind Your Digital Manners. Julie's been featured and quoted over 600 times in the news for her expertise on online dating and relationships including ABC News, BBC, CBS CNN, Cosmpolitan, E! Entertainment, ELLE, FOX, Galtime, Glamour, iVillage, Los Angeles Times, Mashable, Men's Fitness, Men's Health, New York Post, New York Times, Psychology Today, USA Today, Washington Post, WIRED and Woman's Day. Her dating advice has appeared on eHarmony, JDate, Match, POF and Zoosk. Visit Cyber-Dating Expert.com and share your online dating stories. Follow Julie on Twitter @JulieSpira and Like Julie on Facebook.

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