7 Dating Tips for the Holidays

By Julie Spira. Posted on Dec 18th 2009.

Are the sounds of Christmas Carols getting you down? Is your dreidel not spinning this year?

Here are some online dating tips and some advice to cheer up the holiday blues and help singles make the best of the holiday season.

Dating Tip #1. GET A NEW LOOK. Try changing your hairstyle, go shopping in your closet, and jump out of your comfort zone and put on that leopard dress.

Dating Tip #2. UPLOAD NEW PHOTOS. Why wait until the New Year to show off your new look. It’s time to get some professional photos taken, and upload them to your online dating profile. Refresh your look in the eyes of those who will be searching for you.

Dating Tip #3. IT’S ALL ABOUT COLOR. There’s a reason Santa is wears red for the holidays. You just can’t miss him. Put away the little black dress until after New Year’s and try wearing bright colors such as red, blue, gold, or ones that will make you shine.

Dating Tip #4. JOIN AN ONLINE DATING SITE. If you are not online now or think you should wait until the holidays are over, you may be missing out on meeting that special someone or being invited to a holiday party. The period from now through Valentine’s Day is when singles are joining online dating sites in record numbers, some for the very first time.

Dating Tip #5. CHANGE YOUR SCREEN NAME. Is your profile a bit stale? Perhaps it’s time for an online face-lift. Change your screen name to one that is more fun and flirty. Someone who may have glanced over your profile during their last login may notice you this time around.

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Dating Tip #6. GO TO SINGLES EVENTS. There are plenty of singles events in every town. Check your emails and local newspapers for the schedules. The annual Matzo Ball party is held in 11 cities on December 24th for Jewish singles. Meetup.com is filled with low-pressure events. Other dating and matchmaking services have dinner parties and dances just for the holidays. Accept all invitations and you just might end up kissing under the mistletoe.

Dating Tip #7. GRAB YOUR SINGLE FRIENDS. If you are dating online now, consider each date as someone who can expand your social network. Invite them to a casual party and ask them to bring a single friend. You might not fall in love over coffee or lunch, but what if they just happened to have a friend……?

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Julie Spira is a top online dating expert, bestselling author, dating advice columnist and coach, and media personality. She's the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and is writing The Rules of Netiquette: How to Mind Your Digital Manners. Julie's been featured and quoted over 450 times in the news for her expertise on online dating and relationships including ABC News, BBC, CBS CNN, Cosmpolitan, E! Entertainment, ELLE, FOX, Galtime, Glamour, iVillage, Los Angeles Times, Mashable, Men's Fitness, Men's Health, New York Post, New York Times, Psychology Today, WIRED and Woman's Day. Her dating advice has appeared on eHarmony, JDate, Match, and Zoosk. Visit Cyber-Dating Expert.com and share your online dating stories. Follow Julie on Twitter @JulieSpira and Like Julie on Facebook.

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