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5 Steps To Being A Sexier New You

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5 Steps To Being A Sexier New You
Being attractive to a man isn’t automatic. It starts within you.

Are you single and still sleeping in your flannel pajamas while waiting for Mr. Right to sweep you off your feet? Throw away the Cinderella dreams along with your outdated nightie and get ready to learn the art of flirting before you walk out the door for the evening.

Often, when you aren’t in a relationship, you don’t dress as if your dream guy was picking you up for dinner. Let’s face it. It’s easy to get lazy and end up in a rut. You can’t remember your last kiss. You’ve gained a few pounds since your last relationship. You've started to wear less makeup. Your favorite dress never made it to the dry cleaner and still has a spot on the side from the night you spilled red wine on it. The last time you got waxed was when someone detailed your car a year ago.

Sound familiar? My advice is very simple. Start creating rituals at home that will prepare you to feel great about yourself. You can create a sexier new you before having a crush on that someone special. You’ll be surprised at how you’ll start attracting men. Won’t it be fun when suddenly you can pick and choose?

Here’s my step-by-step guide to get in the mood for love without even having to leave the house most of the time. Don’t worry, love will find you when the time is right.

Step 1. Toss away a few pieces of old lingerie that’s cluttering your bureau. Do this right away. It’s time to erase the memories of your past passionate affairs. Out with the old, and in with the new.

Step 2. Invest in one new piece of lingerie. Find a great sale at Victoria’s Secret or go online and select one that fits within your budget. Pick out your favorite color. Think of your new purchase as your favorite little black dress. Before you go imagining wearing it with your new dream guy someday, wear it for yourself first. For now, you’ll be wearing this to sleep at night at least once a week. You’re on your way to a sexier new you.

Step 3. Take a look at your makeup drawer. When was the last time you invested in a simple lip-gloss? Toss away the old makeup and head over to your local department store. Walk around the cosmetics department and find a comfy stool to sit on. Get ready for a free makeover. Imagine yourself going on a date night, while your makeup is being professionally applied. The date night is with your number one fan, yourself. Make sure to get a list of the colors and pick up one item. My suggestion is to replace your outdated lip-gloss with a new color for the season. There’s something very sexy about luscious lips and it’s time your lips are made for kissing.

Step 4. Back at the ranch, it’s time to set the scene in your romantic bedroom. Put away the photos of your family and friends in your bedroom. Move your computer to another room in the house. You’ll be creating a romantic atmosphere and will leave the boardroom behind. Light some candles. Put on some relaxing music, and grab some massage oil. There’s no need to purchase Kama Sutra oils if you don’t have them handy. Baby oil will work just fine. Give yourself a well-deserved foot massage and then curl up with a romance novel.

To really make this advice work, you need to follow these action steps to complete today's challenge.

Right now, I want you to:

Start by cleaning out your lingerie drawer. Find some outdated lingerie, perhaps even some purchased by an ex beau as a gift and toss a piece or two away. It's time time to cleanse and get ready for a sexy new you.

Within 7 days I want you to:

Treat yourself to one new piece of lingerie and start wearing it to bed at night, even if you are sleeping alone.

By the end of the challenge I want you to:

Find some massage oils or Kama Sutra oils. Rub your feet with them before going to sleep. Light candles in your bedroom and start reading a romance novel at night. Picture yourself as the star in this novel. You'll quickly notice a shift in your attitude; will start feeling sexier and more confident. The end result, when you're out in public, you'll be smiling, you'll be approachable, you’ll feel great and the world will notice. You'll become a magnet by just incorporating some of these simple shifts and rituals in your life.

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Julie Spira

Dating Coach, Relationship Coach

Julie Spira is a bestselling author, dating advice columnist and coach, radio show host, and online dating expert. She is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and is host of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Show. Julie is frequently quoted in the news for her expertise on online dating and relationships including The New York Times, ABC News, BBC, CBS News, Cosmo Radio, E! Entertainment, ELLE, FOX News, Galtime, Glamour, iVillage, Los Angeles Times, Men's Health, Psychology Today, WIRED and Woman's Day. Her dating advice has appeared on Date Daily, eHarmony, JDate, Match, and Zoosk. Visit Cyber-Dating Expert.com and share your online dating stories. Follow Julie on Twitter @JulieSpira and Like Julie on Facebook.

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