10 Dos and Don'ts for Using Social Media to Find a Date


10 Dos and Don'ts for Using Social Media to Find a Date
Finding love on Pinterest, Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter turns online dating into social dating.

We know that singles are joining online dating sites in record numbers, but did you know that your social media presence might help, or hinder your chances to find your dream date?

In a recent Pew Research Center’s Internet Project, their findings showed that 30% of social networking users user social media to get information about someone they were interested in dating. Taking it a step further, 15% of the users actually asked someone out on a date on social media site such as Facebook or Twitter.


Some people create Pinterest boards with romantic restaurants they’d like to go to, their holiday wish list, and dream vacations. This can help a potential date learn more about you.

Now, most online dating sites and mobile dating apps allow you to import photos from your Facebook page to your online dating profile page and even allow you to log in using social media. On many of the mobile dating apps such as Tinder and Let’s Date, you can actually view the Facebook profile of potential date. This my friends, is social dating. The merging of the two platforms has become a part of everyday life.

With that in mind, here are ten digital dating dos and don’ts to help speed up your process while looking for love online.

DO: Make sure your relationship status is listed as “Single” on social media sites, so potential dates can chat with you, become your friend, and learn more about you.

DON’T: Post the details of each and every date on social media. It might send the message that your date card is full, that you’re not serious about having a relationship, and that you’re a serial dater.

DO: Post photos of restaurants that you enjoy going to on your Pinterest board, Instagram feed, Facebook page, FourSquare, and on Twitter to include photos of your favorite dishes. This will give someone an idea of where to take you on a date or provide ideas to cook a romantic dinner.

DON’T: Post photos of you hugging your dates on social media. Potential dates will look at your Instagram feed, blog, Facebook page and Twitter feed and if it’s filled with men or women with their arms wrapped around you over-and-over again, you won’t look like relationship potential.

DO: Change your status to “Single” and post it if your relationship ends. Perhaps a digital crush was waiting to ask you out, but thought you weren’t available.

DON’T: Be a Debbie or Donny downer and complain on your social media sites. It sets the tone for someone a date would run from.

DO: Look at a potential date’s Linkedin Profile and Facebook page to see if you have friends in common. This will help you with dating icebreakers and give a possible vote of approval during the digital courtship process.

DON’T: Stalk your digital crush’s social media page and comment on everything they do.

DO: Digital housekeeping and delete photos when your relationship ends as your potential date will be curious to view your photos.

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Julie Spira

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Julie Spira is America's Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She's the bestselling author of  The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and is the host of #DateChat on Twitter on Thursdays at 5pm/PT, 8pm /ET.  Julie writes and teaches about Internet etiquette and is writing The Rules of Netiquette: How to Mind Your Digital Manners. Julie's been featured and quoted over 600 times in the news for her expertise on online dating and relationships including ABC News, BBC, CBS CNN, Cosmpolitan, E! Entertainment, ELLE, FOX, Galtime, Glamour, iVillage, Los Angeles Times, Mashable, Men's Fitness, Men's Health, New York Post, New York Times, Psychology Today, USA Today, Washington Post, WIRED and Woman's Day. Her dating advice has appeared on eHarmony, JDate, Match, POF and Zoosk. Visit Cyber-Dating Expert.com and share your online dating stories. Follow Julie on Twitter @JulieSpira and Like Julie on Facebook.

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