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10 Dos and Don'ts for Using Social Media to Find a Date

10 Dos and Don'ts for Using Social Media to Find a Date
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Finding love on Pinterest, Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter turns online dating into social dating.

We know that singles are joining online dating sites in record numbers, but did you know that your social media presence might help, or hinder your chances to find your dream date?

In a recent Pew Research Center’s Internet Project, their findings showed that 30% of social networking users user social media to get information about someone they were interested in dating. Taking it a step further, 15% of the users actually asked someone out on a date on social media site such as Facebook or Twitter.

Some people create Pinterest boards with romantic restaurants they’d like to go to, their holiday wish list, and dream vacations. This can help a potential date learn more about you.

Now, most online dating sites and mobile dating apps allow you to import photos from your Facebook page to your online dating profile page and even allow you to log in using social media. On many of the mobile dating apps such as Tinder and Let’s Date, you can actually view the Facebook profile of potential date. This my friends, is social dating. The merging of the two platforms has become a part of everyday life.

With that in mind, here are ten digital dating dos and don’ts to help speed up your process while looking for love online.

DO: Make sure your relationship status is listed as “Single” on social media sites, so potential dates can chat with you, become your friend, and learn more about you.

DON’T: Post the details of each and every date on social media. It might send the message that your date card is full, that you’re not serious about having a relationship, and that you’re a serial dater.

DO: Post photos of restaurants that you enjoy going to on your Pinterest board, Instagram feed, Facebook page, FourSquare, and on Twitter to include photos of your favorite dishes. This will give someone an idea of where to take you on a date or provide ideas to cook a romantic dinner.

DON’T: Post photos of you hugging your dates on social media. Potential dates will look at your Instagram feed, blog, Facebook page and Twitter feed and if it’s filled with men or women with their arms wrapped around you over-and-over again, you won’t look like relationship potential.

DO: Change your status to “Single” and post it if your relationship ends. Perhaps a digital crush was waiting to ask you out, but thought you weren’t available.

DON’T: Be a Debbie or Donny downer and complain on your social media sites. It sets the tone for someone a date would run from.

DO: Look at a potential date’s Linkedin Profile and Facebook page to see if you have friends in common. This will help you with dating icebreakers and give a possible vote of approval during the digital courtship process.

DON’T: Stalk your digital crush’s social media page and comment on everything they do.

DO: Digital housekeeping and delete photos when your relationship ends as your potential date will be curious to view your photos.

DON’T: Jump to a digital conclusion and assume your date’s photo is with another romantic interest. It just might be a photo of his or her kissing cousin.

At the end of the digital day, social media plays a huge important part of a romantic journey. I encourage you to cast a wide net and look for love on dating sites, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and mobile apps. The social media menu of opportunities to find your dream date have never been more abundant.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and Klout influencer in the categories of “dating” and “online dating.” She’s the founder and CEO of CyberDatingExpert.com and Social Media and More. Julie was an early adopter of the Internet and has been helping singles find love online for 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles programs. Follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the Weekly Flirt for dating advice.

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