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9 Ways To Remind Yourself That You Are Sexy & Beautiful NO MATTER Your Size

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Sometimes, we just need to remember how beautiful we really are.

More powerful an influencer than ever before, media outlets have played a significant role in the loss of self-esteem in the lives of millions of Americans.

By using models that are nothing but computerized body parts — flaunting unattainable body measurements — they have you desiring impossible Barbie-like figures.

Regardless of whether you are a size two or a size twenty-two, you can begin to build your self-confidence by letting go of unrealistic beauty standards.

Instead of trying to change your appearance, learn how to love your body at any size, with these 9 self-esteem-boosting tips!

 

1. Let go of weight loss worries.

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Step away from the scale. Stop letting a calibrated number, on a digital device, gauge your happiness and steal your inner peace.

While I understand it can be difficult to appreciate your body when you long to see change, begin to learn to love yourself as you are. Don’t waste time fussing over your weight, the numbers don’t tell the whole story.

Walk with your head held high. Be sustained by the self-respect and determination you already have layered deep within you as an individual. Let the weight you lose be what’s lifted off of your shoulders when you embrace and love your body.

 

2. Focus on what makes you feel good

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Love the body you have by taking care of it so that you can do wonderful things.

Don’t wait until something happens in your life that suddenly alters the way you see yourself in relationship to your future. At any given moment you have the power to change your life and say, “This is not how my story is going to end.”

Set your sights on being healthy and strong. Connecting your mind, body, and spirit together will be the energizing combination you require to living your most vibrant life.

 

3. Love your quirks.

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Imagine all the incredible things you could accomplish and all the lives you could touch if you stopped wasting time and energy trying to conform to society’s ideals.

Resist the urge to worry about your body shape and appearance; stop feeling guilty and unsatisfied with your physical being. As well, never say anything about yourself that you wouldn’t say to someone else.

Chances are you have no idea how much your smile, a friendly good morning, or your genuine concern means to those you come in contact with every day. Celebrate who you are and what you have to offer this world — because that’s who you are spending the rest of your life with.

 

4. Fitness is not about skinny-girl stereotypes.

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Exercise is one of the best ways to maintain physical and mental well-being.

Incorporating exercise need not be seen as a chore; nor should your weight or shape dictate the activities you choose to participate in. As a fitness professional, I can assure you, healthy women come in all shapes and sizes.

Make exercise part of your routine because it builds a healthy body and makes you feel good. Choose physical activities that you enjoy and make you feel strong.

Find ways to improve your physical health that promotes fitness, cultivates friendships, and raises your spirits.

 

5. Fight your inner perfectionist.

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Beauty should not be measured by comparing yourself to others. Your voice of self-acceptance has to be bigger and stronger than today’s overblown, media-driven, cultural stereotypes.

The perfect body is the one you already have.

And while there is nothing wrong with wanting to better yourself, be focused on your strengths rather than your weaknesses.

Enjoying health at any size means you are willing to work hard for the body transformations that you can control every day. Your dedication to eating nutritious food, incorporating enjoyable exercise, and practicing positive thinking will help you on your journey to developing a healthy body image.

 

6. List 10 things you love about yourself—without mention of your appearance.

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There will never, ever be another you — you are indeed uniquely and utterly you!

What is your story? What do you bring to the table in relationships? How is your presence a present? What do you happily share with others? How does your perspective on life bring happiness to those you meet?

Your existence is amazing and your beauty is a quality that shines and radiates from within. The smallest gesture or a kind word may brighten someone’s day.

Work toward a life of giving and find your inner beauty in unusual places.

 

7. Put positive thinking into practice.

 

The greater part of your happiness or heartache will depend solely on your attitude, not on your situation. You must put positive thinking into practice.

As you go about your daily life you are continually considering and analyzing the circumstances you find yourself in. You have an inner voice that psychologist’s call ‘self-talk’ that determines how you comprehend every situation

Like food is to the body, self-talk is food for the mind.

Don’t let junk thoughts echo in your head; stop focusing on what could go wrong and focus on what could go right. With practice your self-talk will contain less self-criticism and more self-acceptance; if your compassion doesn’t include yourself it is incomplete.

 

8. Love the skin you’re in.

 

Life is too short to waste a minute of your time agonizing over your physical attributes.

A self-confident body is a sexy body. Learn to love the body you’re in and you won’t be so caught up in everything that you consider wrong with it.

Self-confidence can make you feel attractive and powerful.

From wearing clothes you want to wear to trying out every sex position in the Kamasutra, self-esteem is powerful. It reassures you that you are safe and can take on the world.

Actress Vivica Fox said it best, ‘A great figure or physique is nice, but it’s self-confidence that makes someone really sexy.’

 

9. Find your tribe.

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One of the most instinctive aspects of your being is the desire to feel connected.

Socializing can have a positive impact on your mental and physical health; elevating your self-esteem and boosting your self-confidence. If you’re looking to live a lifetime of health and wellness, start surrounding yourself with good friends.

Developing a strong social support system and meeting new people can help you deal with stress and shield you from its side-effects.

Your tribe can also inspire you to take better care of yourself and encourage you to be the best you can be.

 

Dare not to compare your body.

With the overwhelming influence of mass media in your daily life, it’s easy to develop negative perceptions regarding your body image.

Life is too short to waste a single minute of your time loathing your body.

Imagine all the great things you could accomplish if you replaced the time and energy spent worrying about your body image with positive thoughts and productive habits.

Search for your inner beauty by discovering how to love your body at any size.

 

Judy Molinaro is a wellness coach and master yoga instructor at judymolinaro.com. If you want to learn more about how to love your body and your life even more, contact Judy today.

 

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