If I hear another single woman tell me that men are only interested in getting laid I’m really gonna lose it.
Now before I go any further I’m going to clarify and state that I understand there are some boys out there…ok lots of em…who are only interested in getting their wick dipped and could care less with whom and how it happens.
But understand these guys are boys not men.
I have a year old son and like most 3 year olds he wants what he wants when he wants it. He lives ina very hedonistic world.
When I say some men are boys I mean they act in the same exact way.
Anyone who denies that there are some immature and selfish boys out there who don’t care how their choices affect women , is a fool.
There most certainly are.
And truth be told when I was in my 20’s I had my share of hedonistic moments.
But I grew up and became a man. Life taught me that there was more to a relationship than just sex. Don’t get me wrong I love sex just as much as the next guy. But sex is only one piece of the puzzle.
And while we’re on it, let me disapprove this all men want is sex myth. If that was true men would simply visit prostitutes. C’mon think about it. If all a guy was interested in was sex than it would be much easier, cheaper and drama-free to go down to the local street corner and give a girl a benjamin for a trip around the world.
If it was just sex a man would never get married. (we’ll tackle the there’s no sex after marriage myth in a future article).
Here’s the deal. A boy only cares about sex. A man cares about sex and “more”. What is that more? Well, it’s simply an ability to experience a better and happier life.
I wasn’t born with a vagina and I won’t claim that I can understand what it’s like to be a woman. But after growing up with women in my house and having several good friends who were female in college I was able to get a good understanding of what goes on in the mind of a woman.
This helped me because I was able to see that men and women simply are definitely wired differently.
We both want the same thing (to be happy) but the way we go about it is completely different.
Women are brought up to believe that they are the princesses and the queens and they need the knight in shining armor or the prince on the white horse to live happily ever after.
Men are brought up to believe that they are the knights and princes who must provide and protect their damsels in distress.
I believe it is this programming that makes dating and relationships so difficult. Women look to men to make them happy and men think they are responsible for a woman’s happiness. Well, guess what…. their both wrong!
I learned a long time ago that you can’t make someone else happy, but you can make them happier.
You can take the most miserable woman in the world , the one with a whole closet full of baggage and give her the greatest guy in the world and she will never be happy. In fact, very often the great guy will exacerbate her feelings and insecurities and cause her to feel even worse.