What A MAN Really Wants....It's more than SEX!


Millions of frustrated single women don't understand what a MAN is really looking for.

If I hear another single woman tell me that men are only interested in getting laid I’m really gonna lose it.

Now before I go any further I’m going to clarify and state that I understand there are some boys out there…ok lots of em…who are only interested in getting their wick dipped and could care less with whom and how it happens.

But understand these guys are boys not men.
I have a year old son and like most 3 year olds he wants what he wants when he wants it. He lives ina very hedonistic world.

When I say some men are boys I mean they act in the same exact way.

Anyone who denies that there are some immature and selfish boys out there who don’t care how their choices affect women , is a fool.
There most certainly are.

And truth be told when I was in my 20’s I had my share of hedonistic moments.

But I grew up and became a man. Life taught me that there was more to a relationship than just sex. Don’t get me wrong I love sex just as much as the next guy. But sex is only one piece of the puzzle.

And while we’re on it, let me disapprove this all men want is sex myth. If that was true men would simply visit prostitutes. C’mon think about it. If all a guy was interested in was sex than it would be much easier, cheaper and drama-free to go down to the local street corner and give a girl a benjamin for a trip around the world.

If it was just sex a man would never get married. (we’ll tackle the there’s no sex after marriage myth in a future article).

Here’s the deal. A boy only cares about sex. A man cares about sex and “more”. What is that more? Well, it’s simply an ability to experience a better and happier life.

I wasn’t born with a vagina and I won’t claim that I can understand what it’s like to be a woman. But after growing up with women in my house and having several good friends who were female in college I was able to get a good understanding of what goes on in the mind of a woman.

This helped me because I was able to see that men and women simply are definitely wired differently.

We both want the same thing (to be happy) but the way we go about it is completely different.

Women are brought up to believe that they are the princesses and the queens and they need the knight in shining armor or the prince on the white horse to live happily ever after.

Men are brought up to believe that they are the knights and princes who must provide and protect their damsels in distress.

I believe it is this programming that makes dating and relationships so difficult. Women look to men to make them happy and men think they are responsible for a woman’s happiness. Well, guess what…. their both wrong!

I learned a long time ago that you can’t make someone else happy, but you can make them happier.

You can take the most miserable woman in the world , the one with a whole closet full of baggage and give her the greatest guy in the world and she will never be happy. In fact, very often the great guy will exacerbate her feelings and insecurities and cause her to feel even worse.

Now, before you get your panties in a bunch let me say that this works both ways. If you take a guy who is a jerk and you give him the greatest girl in the world he will become a bigger jerk. He will do everything and anything to disrespect and dishonor that woman. He is not man enough to appreciate a good woman when she comes along.

A good man appreciates and loves a woman who can make him happy and make him feel good about himself. You see men really are simple creatures

We really have two basic needs:. To be happy and to avoid drama.

If you show a man that he will be happy and his life will be drama free than he will want to be with you . As long as the sex is there as well.

In my past I have had some great lovers but no matter how great the sex was I couldn’t stand being in a relationship with most of those women. Why? Because of the drama. My life wasn’t better and I wasn’t happier. The 23 hours of pain did not outweigh the one hour of pleasure.

It’s not just about sex for a MAN. Sex is only one piece of the puzzle. Yes, it is an important piece, but at the end of the day it is just one piece.

If you want a great guy both in and out of the bedroom make sure you find out what he needs to be happy and make sure you keep drama to a minimum.

The right guy will love and appreciate you for that and as a result he will want to be with you. Not because he has to but because he wants to.

This November I will be married to my wife Natalie for 10 years and I can honestly say that I love her more today than the day we walked down the aisle.

Why? Because she makes me happier and she makes my life better. I stay committed to her because I want to. Because I get to experience a better and happier life.

Why would I want to leave. For some piece of ass? At the end of the day we all have the same parts. And although the parts come in different shapes and sizes and some are more physically appealing than others there ain’t no piece of ass that is worth throwing away something great when you have it.

If you show a man that his life will be better and he will be happier because of your presence in his life, he will want to be with you as well. If he doesn’t he is not a man, he is a boy and I suggest you kick his ass to the curb.

If you have finding that you have a pattern of being in relationships with "boys" and you would like to learn how to find and attract the "MAN" you have been searching for I'd like to offer you a free 1-on-1 private phone consulation with me where we can discuss the obstacles which are blocking you from having what it is you know you deserve. To take advantage of this limited opportunity send an e-mail to me at drjoe@lifeskilz.com


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