This article describes how the author, a self proclaimed online dating critic, met his wife online.
I can understand. If you would have told me when I was in my thirties that I would have met my wife online, I would have laughed in your face, called you a few choice names and bet everything I owned against it happening.
But, no matter what I felt and believed at the time…I would have been wrong. Isn't it ironic how life works out?
Before I go any further, let me debunk the myth that online dating is only for losers or those who are desperate. Last year over 40 million American adults used an online dating site.
According to a recent study, online dating may even be bigger and more popular than porn. That's right, last year the online dating industry raked in more than one billion dollars!
If you are contemplating online dating be careful, because there is a right way and a wrong way to do it.
I believe one of the reasons I was able to meet my wife so quickly was because I was able to figure out the "rules" of the online dating game. It became quite apparent from the very beginning that there were two types of people that used online dating. Those who were seriously searching for that special person to share their life with and those who had “other motives.”
One of the keys that helped me was to quickly recognize which group a person fit into. Once I figured out who was seriously looking for love and who wasn't it became a tool in identifying the type of person I was looking for.
Having just come out of a 3 year rollercoaster relationship I was crystal clear on what I was looking for. As a result my antennas were up and any signs that a girl wasn't right for me, caused me to move on quickly.
The great thing about online dating is that it allows you to screen your potential dates much more effectively. I remember reading a person's profile and knowing immediately if it was the type of person I was looking for. In fact, that's one of the reasons I am such a big fan of online dating.
If you read a person's profile, e-mail and talk to them on the phone, 99% of the time you know if you have any potential before you even go out. How cool is that? You get to screen a person before going out with them!
At that point in my life I was no longer willing to waste months and years with someone who wasn't a good fit for me. Being able to screen more effectively made dating much easier and more enjoyable.
Did a person occasionally lie or misrepresent themselves in their picture or profile? Yes. But even though they flew under my radar I was still able to figure them out quickly. It may have taken me a date or two to uncover their lies and misrepresentations but I would much rather waste a few dates discovering that they weren't right for me than waste 3 more years of my life.
One of the biggest mistakes I see men and women make in online dating is that they don't understand how to do it "right". Just because a person joins a gym doesn't mean that they will get in shape. And just because a person signs up for an online dating account doesn't mean they will meet the person they are looking for.
If you learn how to put yourself in position to win you greatly increase your chances of finding the person you are looking for.
If you have not tried online dating or you have but you haven't had great success I suggest you read my free report: The 5 Secret Steps for Online Dating Success.