5 Secrets to Go From Dating Mess to Relationship Succcess

If you really think about it there are two major decisions that most human beings will make. Almost everything that we do in our lives will be traced back to these two decisions. Want to know what they are?

Well, I’ll tell you but before I do let me ask you this. If you weren’t aware of what these two decisions were or you weren’t taught how to succeed at them, what do you think your chances would be of creating the results that you desire? Slim to none right?

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Herein lies the problem. As human beings we are aware of these two major decisions but we are not taught how to succeed at them. So, it becomes glaringly obvious why most people do not experience the results they desire in one or both of these areas and as a result they go to their graves with the gnawing feeling that their life wasn’t as happy and fulfilling as it should have been.

So, what are these two major decisions? The first is what are we going to do with our lives? What is the career, calling or vocation that we are going to spend the majority of our life doing.

Unfortunately our educational system teaches us very little or nothing about succeeding at this. There is not one study that shows there is a direct correlation between a person’s GPA and the level of success in their in life.

Yes, our educational system teaches us how to be teachers, lawyers, doctors and accountants. But it teaches us very little about how to does not teach us how to succeed at these things.

If you study many of the world’s most successful people you will see that they weren’t tops in their class, they didn’t go to Harvard or Yale & in very many cases they often had very little or no college experience.
So, what does this have to do with dating?

The second major decision most of us make is who we are going to spend our lives with. A recent study showed that almost 50 percent of marriages ended up in divorce. And when the remaining 50% was polled 35% admitted that if they had to remarry their current spouse they wouldn’t.

Many of these individuals stated that they stayed in their unhappy and unfulfilling relationships for one of several reasons. It may have been financial, fear of leaving and being alone or for the sake of the kids.

Whatever the reason these individuals resigned themselves to a life where they could not experience the happiness and love that they desired.

Is it any wonder why so many men and women have affairs?

Much like our careers our educational system teaches us very little about how to succeed at relationships and marriage.

Including graduate school I went to school for a total of 17 years and I had one….ONE class on marriage and relationships. I went to an all-boys Catholic high school and I vaguely remember having a course taught by one of the Christian Brothers.

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Now, if you wanted to be a multimillionaire would you let a homeless person teach the course? How could a Christian Brother, someone who has never been married or in a romantic relationship with a woman teach a course on marriage and relationships?

It’s no wonder I don’t remember anything from that class.