Your Daughter Is Being Lured Into The Sex Trade By Social Media

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Teen Girls End Up In The Sex Trade
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A former escort's message to parents: You need to wake up!

Unless you've been living under a rock for the last 10 years, you know that the Internet and social media have had a major impact on humankind, redefining the way we communicate, interact, and share information. As a result, the whole world (and anyone and anything in it) seems right at our fingertips.

Of course, this makes our lives easier in many ways, but it also has just as many negative ramifications. 

As adults, we know that social media is just another form of communication and not always an accurate depiction of reality. Unfortunately, this is not the case for many teenagers and young adults. They're unable to discern the propaganda idolized on social media from what is real and relevant to the world they live in.

Today's teens are often engulfed in the virtual world of social media, and they are easily influenced by the content they see there. 

In our sex-obsessed culture, social media glorifies sex, sex appeal, and external beauty. It imposes upon young women a belief that having sex and 'being sexy' are the primary means to getting attention and what you want in life.

These destructive dynamics coerce these women into obsessing about their physical appearance and meeting the unrealistic high standards represented on social media. Not surprisingly, as they strive to "fit in" and be sexy and beautiful, they develop a negative self-image or low self-esteem in the process.

I recently watched two documentaries that drive this sad truth home so much I was utterly speechless: "Hot Girls Wanted" and "Sexy Baby." Both documentaries are co-directed and co-produced by Jill Bauer and Ronna Gradus.

They reveal an eye-opening look into how the cultural glorification of sex and the sex trade influences and impacts our young women. I regularly reference these two documentaries in my advocacy work when talking to young women about sex, social media and self-image.

1. "Hot Girls Wanted" 


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"Hot Girls Wanted" offers viewers an insider look at the booming business of Amateur Pornography (or "AmPorn" as it is often referred to). Amateur porn is often filmed from the male perspective, to give the illusion that two amateurs (boyfriend or girlfriend) are filming themselves having sex.

This new type of pornography has taken over the adult film industry and is making it increasingly difficult for high-cost pornography production studios to compete.

The documentary shadows several of the girls and their families, as well as the pornography producer/manager. The girls reveal that social media, their peers, and the lure of fast and easy money influenced them to enter the business.

The average AmPorn girl earns around $10,000 per month; and commonly builds a massive fan base of followers on social media. The longevity of her career however depends on how "in demand" she is and how quickly she "catches on." A career can range anywhere from just a few months to several years for these girls.

Read between the lines and you will see that it is the producers (not the girls) who are reaping the long-term benefits of the AmPorn business. Most often, the porn producers are men who star in many of the videos, and take a percentage from all video profits. 

It certainly does not require any kind of advanced intellectual capability or specialized skills. Anyone with a camera phone, computer, and an Internet connection, can find girls and start producing porn.

2. "Sexy Baby"

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"Sexy Baby" is an eye-opening documentary that illustrates the impact that sex appeal, pornography, and social media are having on younger generations. The film centers on a teenager, a young millennial, and a porn star exiting the business, illustrating how our culture's obsession with the sex trade affects each of them.

This is a truly powerful documentary that powerfully highlights the dangerous connection between sex, social media and self-image. I highly recommend that parents see it and have a conversation with their teens.

It may seem a bit strange that I am addressing these topics and taking such a negative stance on the issues — after all, I am a former sex worker who spent 5 years working as an escort before I launched my relationship coaching business.

You may expect to hear me glorify the sex industry and encourage young women to become sex workers. But, my first hand experience gives me a real understanding of just how damaging sex work and obsession with beauty can be.

Now, I work with women and help them understand the realities of sex work.

My goal is to educate young women about the realities of the sex trade industry and the pitfalls of being too concerned with beauty and sex appeal. I urge them to see past the "hype," easy money, and fast lifestyle promoted via social media and our culture. After all, what appears to be an awesome, easy way to make money today, will likely be a trap later, a difficult hurdle to overcome in order to have a normal life in the future.

Each woman has her own thoughts about her body and physical appearance. It is ultimately her choice to enter the sex trade. However, knowledge is power; and if I can offer a realistic perspective of the business and my first hand experiences within it, perhaps at least one woman might reconsider her long-term life goals.

In doing this, she may discover her true, natural abilities and talents, to support herself and move through the subsequent phases of her life.

So I encourage everyone (especially parents of daughters) to watch these two important documentaries and truly understand the ugly world that exists behind the sexy lie the porn industry sells to young girls. 

Jessica Brighton is a former escort turned relationship coach. Learn more about her on her website or email Jess to set up your ‘virtual coffee with Jess’ session, a free 20-minute call to learn how Jess can work with your teen(s) to address issues such as the ones addressed above.

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