With the onslaught of cameras and social media, privacy in our society is often considered unnecessary. As the drama of other people’s ups and downs plays out on screens, people forget that human survival has been linked to cultivating private time for personal sanctuary. Sometimes, we need to be emotionally unavailable.
Privacy has many benefits, whatever your level of emotional wounding (and we all have some). Wanting privacy does not mean you have anything to hide; rather, it shows self-respect and a deep-seated investment in caring for yourself. Sometimes you just need to be alone, say the Boston Globe and Harvard Review.
Asking for privacy creates a sense of autonomy to grieve, break down and do whatever is necessary in your healing process — without the gaze of the world judging your every move. It takes away the pressure and eliminates a timeline. Sympathy and well-wishes can sometimes be just as intrusive as judgment or unkindness. If you need time and space to mourn, be as upfront as you can when communicating with those who seek to help.
Privacy allows you the space to be entirely yourself with no expectations. Living in the public eye brings constant pressure to behave in a certain way. Healing happens when you allow yourself to decompress without witnesses. Keep Reading...
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