Is Pre-Baby Marriage Counseling For You?


Is Pre-Baby Marriage Counseling For You?
Two out of three couples say marriage got worse after baby. Here's how to keep your romance alive

“You’ll never sleep again.” “You have no idea how tired you’ll be.” “Forget sex.”

Expecting a baby? You’ve heard it all before. As a recent Wall Street Journal article put it, babies are “So Cute, So Hard on a Marriage.”  According to the Relationship Research Institute in Seattle, about two-thirds of couples say that within three years of the birth of a child, conflict and hostility increased dramatically. Babies raised by unhappy parents, the institute also reports, talk later, potty-train later, and have trouble learning to soothe themselves. For the sake of the whole family, how can you make sure your marriage stays strong?


For answers, some couples are turning to pre-baby marriage counseling. Your mom and dad may have fallen into clearly defined gender roles (however narrow) and relied on nearby family for support, but today keeping it all together demands creative teamwork. Since women still do twice as much childcare and housework as their male partners even when both are employed, planning ahead can be a huge help in promoting balance and harmony. You’ll learn how to:

  • Nurture your friendship. People love to tell you to be sure to schedule date night and have regular sex. Yes, shared activities and touch (including hugs, strokes, and cuddling) are a big help, but the key to staying close through all the stress is conveying appreciation, empathy and mutual respect in a variety of ways. 

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Jean Fitzpatrick

Marriage/Couples Counselor

Jean Fitzpatrick is a New York psychotherapist and marriage counselor.  Jean's practice includes individual and couples, and she specializes in affair recoverypre-marriageprebaby and postpartum counseling. Jean is a member of the elite Marriage Friendly Therapists network and the American Association of Pastoral Counselors.  Jean has been interviewed in The New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Chicago Tribune, Women's Health, on CNN and in USA Today, the NY Daily News, and other media outlets where the subject is marriage and family life. Jean's articles on family life and emotional and spiritual growth have appeared in many national magazines over the past twenty-five years, including Parents,Working Mother, The New York Times Magazine, and Family Circle, and she has written 6 books on family life.  

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Location: New York, NY
Credentials: LP, MA, Other
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Infidelity / Affair Recovery, Marriage
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