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How To Make A Man Have An Attraction For You That Lasts FOREVER

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How To Build ATTRACTION That Lasts Forever
Love

Attraction isn't everything, but it's not nothing, either.

When you meet a guy, either you have chemistry or you don't.

No matter how good a guy is on paper, if your body doesn't like him, you've got no chance.

However, attraction IS something you can build and there are three things you need in order to create and build attraction:

1. Anticipation

Building attraction requires anticipation. This means that if you want to have a long-term relationship, you need to start thinking long-term.

Remember: Anticipation outranks consummation. In other words, the longer you wait before you have sex, the more attraction you'll build.

Sex doesn't build attraction; anticipation does.

2. Have a fight. 

I'm not saying go out of your way to have a fight. I'm saying you don't really know someone until you have a fight with them.

Attraction increases when you're able to stay with people, even on the days when you don't like them. Having a fight is not what builds attraction; the ability to get through it makes your attraction stronger.

3. Make a commitment

When you're sitting on the fence, not much happens in any aspect of your life. When you commit to another human being, you awaken an attraction you probably didn't even know you had.

Attraction increases when you can count on someone to do what they say they're going to do.

A relationship is a conversation that doesn't end. It's a series of kept agreements. This is a practical definition of lasting love.

If you want to build an attraction that lasts, you need anticipation. Fighting is not the end of a relationship, it's a sign you're beginning to care. A commitment takes your chemistry to another level, one where you can build your attraction into a love that lasts forever.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

 

This article was originally published at jamesallenhanrahan.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.