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3 Steps That Make All Men Committable

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All men are committable. The secret is to where and to who?

If you're wondering why a man won't commit to you as many of my clients do then one if not all of 3 important steps is missing. Commitment is a step by step process for men. No step can be skipped or washed over. The first thing I suggest is you invest 98 minutes and 37 dollars and watch the DVD Chemistry to Commitment now. In the meantime.

Step one.

Always give him the problem. One of the biggest reasons why men don't commit to you is they don't know they have to. This is a big mistake that women make they don't give the man the problem. As I demonstrate in the Chemistry to Commitment DVD there is an art and technique to giving a man the problem as there is to all 3 of these steps. Men like problems because they like to solve them. By the way complaining is not the correct way to give a man the problem and there is a better way that actually works. Always give him the problem.

Step 2.

Never give him the solution. This is a more subtle reason why men don't commit. You may think that telling him what to do will fix the problem. This never works. This will make him your child. Which makes you his mother. Children are not known for taking on responsibility they let you do it. There is a way to let him know exactly what to do but giving him the solution is not it which ties into the next step. Never give him the solution.

Step 3

Always make it his idea. This is the ultimate reason why men don't commit. If it is not his idea you do not have a relationship or a commitment you have a dream. This is where you get close to commitment but he never quite gets around to it leaving you frustrated and resentful ultimately ending the relationship bitterly because there's no momentum and no plan.

If you don't know how to make it his idea however you realize how important it is and you're tired of wondering why men don't commit to you then please stop wasting your time being frustrated and watch the DVD. When you understand the 3 steps and how to deliver them in a way men understand you will realize all men are committable when you know what you're doing.

Much love,

James

P.S. Watch How To Know If You Have Chemistry In 30 Seconds.

This article was originally published at http://www.jamesallenhanrahan.com/. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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