3 Reasons You Don't Want Your Ex Boyfriend Back


3 Reasons You Don't Want Your Ex Boyfriend Back
If at first you don't succeed with an ex. Do you want to try again?

His number is still in your phone in spite of many attempts to delete it. It's been a particularly hard day and your lonely. All the guys you've been meeting are boring. Before you throw all the hard work of getting over him; it can take up to two years read A Life Of Love out the window and call him consider these 3 reasons not to want your ex back.



You've changed. One of the challenges of changing is you can no longer overlook bad behavior it's to blatantly obvious. There are reasons we stop seeing people. The problem is once a man leave you he realizes and hopefully you do to that he can. Which makes it that much easier to leave again. As a man who has broken up with women only to ask them; shall I say begged them to take me back with all sincerity in the moment... I will tell you yes, I liked that you had changed, that you loved yourself more and weren't willing to put up with my inconsistent and selfish behavior. I truly thought things would be different because you've changed. There was one small problem. Reason number two.


He hasn't. Just because a man suddenly finds out the grass isn't any greener doesn't mean he's changed. I've had women take me back, bless them. However I'm not with them today. After the initial euphoria from the anxiety of wanting her back wore off. I was left with the same person with the same problems I had before I left. Me. Are there happy accidents? Yes even an elephant can draw a picture once. Do men change? Certainly but rarely in a few weeks of discomfort. The problem hasn't gone away it's still there under the dramatic surface and will show up again. It's fun to win the battle it hurts to lose the war. Especially if you're headed for reason number three.


You want to be married. In the beginning of your dating life you can waste time trying to fix things that are broken because it's dramatic and you think your ex boyfriend will change because you've had so many good times together. There called rose colored glasses. Even a broken clock is right two times a day. If you want to be married the standards are different. You start looking for things other than drama. For example can he keep his agreements or is he only focused on how he feels in the moment. Start with someone who wants to build with you and has momentum. This is usually the next guy the one who appreciates who you are now and is ready for you. Stopping and starting rarely works because men who leave over small things rarely have the maturity to stay for the big ones. Read A Life Of Love and let me know how it goes.

Much love,


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James Allen Hanrahan

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Thank you James!
I just went out with a guy who is just the way you described it (feminine energy man), and was such a turn off! He started as a ten and as you mentioned, he did not give me any material, nor protected me (he actually crashed his bike against mine and I fell off the ground), and he cares about his feelings, not mine. So even though he seems like an amazing guy (in so many other areas), all these things put together were such a turnoff! And he keeps himself poor! Jees...Thank you for putting it in such a clean cut way!

 Do you give too much?  Do you have trouble receiving? When you understand what to say and how to say it to a man you will attract and keep the man you want to be with for the rest of your life. Having been alone for many years I know how painful and frustrating it can be not to know why or what to do or say. 

However as a result of what I want to share with you I'm now happily married. It's been a long journey and I want the same for you because in the end love is all that matters. It's possible and you deserve to be loved for who you are inside. Contact me and find your way back to love from the "Inside out Outside in"..

Much love,




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