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3 Ways To Get Your Ex Back (So He'll Never Leave Again)

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How You Get Your Ex Back In 3 Easy Steps
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Magic words, penguins, voodoo dolls? Before you try them, read this.

It's been a long time since your breakup and you still want to get your ex back. But, it's painful. I understand, I've been there.

Nothing hurts more than wanting to get your ex back when they don't want to be with you. I remember it well. I'll probably never forget it. The pain is unbearable and it feels like it's never going to go away.

With that in mind, keep the faith. Doing these 3 things is how you get your ex back:

1. Don't believe in "fairytale products".


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Fairytales are claims that seem too good to be true unless you want to believe in them. Products that claim to get your ex back and have him hopelessly addicted to you sound good if you're Snow White and he's one of the 7 dwarfs.

Cartoon characters are not a good sign. By the way, penguins are only faithful for one season.

2. Don't have "the talk" with your ex.


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Calling or texting your ex to talk about a relationship he ended never works, even with magic words. Continuing to reach out to him after he broke up with you will only make him more secure in knowing that you still love him.

This allows him to ignore you and treat you badly because he's confident you still want him. For guys, if you have to talk about a relationship, that means you don't have one. It has to be his idea.

(You may ask yourself, how is it ever going to be his idea? Watch Chemistry To Commitment to find out.)

3. Raise the bar.


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There is one way your ex may return. It may take up to 8 weeks. For 8 weeks, don't reach out to him or contact him in any way. Yes, this includes any possible reason you can think of.

Mark your calendar and date other guys. If during the 8 weeks, he contacts you, it's time to raise the bar.

For example, if you were just dating before, now, require a promise ring. If you were living together, an engagement ring. Raise the bar to whatever level you're comfortable with if you want your ex to come back and value you going forward.

If it's been more than 8 weeks, you will need to write a very effective, 5-paragraph "Hi-Bye" letter.

James Allen Hanrahan is a dating relationship coach in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula.

This article was originally published at jamesallenhanrahan.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.