Ilene Dillon, Counselor/Therapist

Ilene Dillon - Counselor/Therapist, Family Coach, Life Coach, Marriage and Family Therapist, Marriage Educator, Social Worker - Kentfield, CA
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905 Sir Francis Drake Blvd, Ste D
Kentfield, CA
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"Pay attention, not to what you want to overcome, but to what you want to BECOME!"

 

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20 Things Parents Need to Teach Kids About Emotions

20 Things to Parents Need to Teach Kids About Emotion Does the thought of teaching your child to deal with his or her emotions feel overwhelming to you? For many generations, people have worked hard to ignore, repress and vilify their emotions, leaving most parents unknowledgeable about them. Fortunately, ...

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10 Ways To Help Your Kids Cope With Your Divorce

Divorce is not easy for anyone, and it can be especially difficult for children. Kids experience the acute scrambling of their world, while their parents wrestle with their complex emotions. With both parents in distress, or one parent suddenly missing, ...

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Anger: Our Most Active Emotion

Last time, I asked whether you want to “manage” anger, or to really “master” it. A master is in charge, knowing how anger works, why you’re working with it, what to do to change it, its liabilities and benefits, and what to do if you don’t want to keep getting ...

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Motherhood & Love: How To Keep Your Main Relationships Fulfilling

From Elisabeth LaMotte (@elisjoy): When two people love each other, nothing is better than raising a family together. That said, parents often put their parenting and career responsibilities at the top of their priority list, and allow their marriage to ...

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Anger: Manage It (Forever), or Master It (For Good)?

What’s your relationship with anger? Never have it? “Inherited” it from your Irish Grandmother? Rage-aholic? Depressive? Everybody experiences anger during their lifetime. Most of us know so little about it that we entertain myths, such as “Anger just happens to me,” it’s ...

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Coaching to Redefine the "Job" of Parenting

As a person who lived as a single parent for nearly 20 years, raising my son and daughter, and as the adoptive mother of my husband's 13 year old daughter, I was prompted to develop new and different methods for parenting.  I was determined not to fit the statistics of "single mother households," with children who had teen pregnancies, were school dropouts, or who were out of control.  I ended up developing a new method, that I have called "Conscious Parenting" for the past 30 years.  This is the "coming way" of parenting.  A recent book published by Namaste' Publishing (publisher of Eckhart Tolle's books), Dr. Shefali Tsabary, is titled "The Conscious Parent."

It's not a new method, it's a new way to define parenting!  It allows a parent to be a learning partner with children, and produces children who are responsible, self-determining, make good decisions and are authentic.  No more having to "rediscover" oneself after reaching adulthood--children raised by Conscious Parents remain true to who they are at the moment of birth.

By viewing your child as a "visitor," you change everything, including discipline!  By adding the idea that you are two souls, one (you) having reached this earth prior to the other (your child), working together to grow and develop, parenting takes on a totally different hue. Your parental jobs include becoming the type of person you'd like your child to model on, learning to work with, master and balance your emotions, and processing daily life events with your child to extract the learning available for you both.  It's an amazing system.

This week, I was visited by all 5 of my grandchildren (the offspring of my son and my daughter).  They range in age from 14 to 2, and are amazing individuals.  They are expressive, warm, loving, exercise their talents (that range from singing to soccer, swimming, art, playing musical instruments, football, animal care, cooking, gardening and reading...!), and participate in the family as full and responsible members.  They also look after one another and people they care about, exercising empathy.  It was a joy to see that the work I did to develop Conscious Parenting has been passed down and just seems to create a better and better outcome as the generations unfold!

In 2009, my friend and co-host, Life Coach Deki Fox and I started "Building Conscious Families," a weekly radio program aired over The Women's Information Network (www.thewinonline.com).  On this show, we talk about the basic philosophy, approaches and outcomes of parenting consciously, which is what is needed to create families for the future.  We recently interviewed Yeshi Newman, a California grandmother who holds week-long workshops on Conscious Grandmothering!  Check us out!

Most parents are parenting differently than their parents did.  It's my observation, however, that we haven't yet found a solid "system" for parenting that holds together in the way our "old system" has.  Conscious Parenting is evolving into that new system.  I've been teaching people in the US and Australia for over 30 years how to parent consciously, including the new approach to discipline, the power of decision-making, and the importance of working with remorse and forgiveness to help our children grow.  The success story I offer is my own.  The more I share my learning with the world, the more this success story can be yours, and the success story of humans everywhere, too. For this, I am truly grateful!

 

 

 

CredentialsLCSW, LMFT
Time in Practice25 years +
I practice inAll areas, please inquire
Additional ExpertiseFamily Coach
Life Coach
Marriage and Family Therapist
Marriage Educator
Social Worker
I offer my servicesAt my office
Telephone
By Email
Via Skype
I am fluent inEnglish
Licence informationExpiration 3/31/14
Number MFC 5747 LCS 7035 (exp 04/31/2014)
Latest Expert Videos
CredentialsLCSW, LMFT
Time in Practice25 years +
I practice inAll areas, please inquire
Additional ExpertiseFamily Coach
Life Coach
Marriage and Family Therapist
Marriage Educator
Social Worker
I offer my servicesAt my office
Telephone
By Email
Via Skype
I am fluent inEnglish
Licence informationExpiration 3/31/14
Number MFC 5747 LCS 7035 (exp 04/31/2014)
Latest Expert Videos