Ilene Dillon - Counselor/Therapist, Family Coach, Life Coach, Marriage and Family Therapist, Marriage Educator, Social Worker - Kentfield, CA
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Ilene Dillon (LCSW,LMFT)


Contact information

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Phone 415-454-5363

Fax: 510-223-4171

 You’re a parent? How is it going? Are the kids loving and communicative, as you always hoped? Are they developing mastery over anger and other emotions, becoming less manipulative, learning from their mistakes, making great decisions, and staying immune to peer pressure?

And what about you? Are you getting help in this area from your children? Some children as young as 5 are making a family dinner once a week! How pressured do you feel? Are your policies as a parent so clear that you have no need to repeat yourself? Do you have time to actually have fun with your children? When you go on family trips, do they help with the luggage and navigation….or is it all up to the adults?

Whatever your issues in parenting, re-defining the “job” of being a parent, along with re-defining you child’s job, is a good place to start making changes for the better, so you become the parent of Incredible Kids!

In addition to being a Marriage and Family Counselor for 40 years, I lived 28 years as a single parent, 16 as a married parent, and have been a birth, step, adoptive and now a grand mother! I know parenting from every angle. I developed (and lived) a system for parenting called Parenting Consciously (PC). Children who are raised Consciously turn out to be Incredible Kids, who become Amazing Adults.

Be sure to pick up your free 10-page booklet, Incredible Ways to Communicate That Result in Incredible Kids!  Get acquainted with me by taking my free one-hour program, What It Takes to Raise Emotionally Masterful Kids. Stay connected with my free newsletter: Incredible Kids

I’ve taught PC all over the world, to people in very different living circumstances. If you want your child to develop mastery over his or her anger, to grow successfully out of manipulative behaviors, and to easily develop and maintain high Self Esteem, you’ll want to participate in my group, online or individual coaching programs full of skills and information. Parenting Consciously really works. It makes parenting easier; and kids become self-directing, learn from their mistakes, to make great decisions, and become immune to peer pressure. Come transform our world by raising your kids so they remain the incredible beings they were at the moment of birth!

The Reason I Became A Helping Professional

I was born to help others.  I was just fortunate enough to find ways to do it!

Like most psychotherapists, I had a very challenging early life.  The pain of those experiences brought my attention to working with my own self.  What I learned worked so well I was inspired to share it with others, which I could best do as a social worker/psychotherapist. It also stimulated my lifelong desire to develop a system for parenting that allows children to grow up by learning from their experiences, while not dragging emotional baggage with them into adulthood. There are ways to parent that do not require a person to "find themselves" as adults. 

I was a child of divorce. I've experienced two divorces. I've birthed two children, adopted one and also had step children. I raised my birth children for 28 years as a single parent.  I'm married to retired Neurosurgeon Dr. Robert Fink, and live as part of a Blended Family, with a total of 6 adult "kids". Together, we have 5 grandchildren. I learned from all of these experiences. It has made me more empathetic and knowledgeable.

I'm excited to have found ways for parents to help children learn from all the experiences of their young lives. Adults who Parent Consciously raise Incredible Kids. Those kids live amazing lives, thus transforming our world.  It is my honor to help to safely welcome and nurture new Earth Citizens, guiding them to be the Amazing Adults they were born to be.

I have spent my life helping others. I get deep satisfaction from partnering with others to help them live fulfilling and empowered lives. Working with you and your family, to improve the quality of your parenting and your life, is a privilege and an honor.

I'm affiliated with The California Association for Marriage and Family Therapists and The National Speakers Association, two organizations that have brought benefit and support to my efforts. 

Ilene Dillon

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Spiritual, but no affiliation

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Ilene Dillon

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Fee Range:

Over $120 per session

Ilene Dillon

Quick Stats



Time in Practice:

25 years +

I practice in:

All areas, please inquire

Additional Expertise:

Family Coach

Life Coach

Marriage and Family Therapist

Marriage Educator

Social Worker

I offer my services:

At my office


By Email

Via Skype

I am fluent in:


Licence information:

Expiration 3/31/14
Number MFC 5747 LCS 7035 (exp 04/31/2014)

Articles by Ilene Dillon

20 Things Parents Need to Teach Kids About Emotions

Help Your Kids Work WITH Their Emotions. They'll Have a More Empowered, Successful & Healthier Life!

10 Ways To Help Your Kids Cope With Your Divorce [EXPERT]

10 Ways To Help Your Kids Cope With Your Divorce

When you and your spouse split, you and your kids must work together.

Anger: Our Most Active Emotion

To Master Anger, we must understand it, and that's what we begin here. Why is "active" important?

Motherhood & Love: How To Keep Your Main Relationships Fulfilling

How to stay romantically connected with your husband, and be a good example for your children.

Anger: Manage It (Forever), or Master It (For Good)?

A short inquiry into the role you want anger to play in your life, now and on into your future

Ilene Dillon

All Specialties

Anger Management, Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues, Depression, Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Family Support, Other, Parenting, Stepfamilies