I believe that a woman will always find that sexual chemistry is key--with the man of her dreams, a life partner or even a date. When a woman meets a man, within the first few sentences she already knows if they will “click.” It is not always about coincidences or about subtleties with a woman. Sometimes a woman will tune you out completely in order to focus on the cues that you send with your body language. They say actions speak louder than words and they are right. Actions do speak louder than words. Your body language speaks volumes about what you are really thinking, feeling or wanting. If a woman knows how to read your body language, it will determine whether or not you will “click” with her.
For a relationship of substance, chemistry will play a major role in who she decides to date, court or make love to. Chemistry is what makes a woman yearn for you or even miss you when are away. Sometimes people get chemistry and lust confused. Anyone can lust after you, but not just anyone will truly miss you. When someone lusts after you, if you are unavailable, she will just find someone else to fulfill her needs and will not think twice about it. However, when someone has chemistry with you, she will yearn for you and only you. No one else will satisfy her thirst. Even if she gets what she wants from someone else, it will not be enough.
Chemistry sometimes happens in an instant. You may just meet someone and begin to talk like you have known each other for years, because it is so easy to open up. In other cases, chemistry may take some time to cultivate and maintain. In these cases, you take the time to get to know the individual you are interested in, either from afar or up close and personal. Either way, when you get to know her, feelings begin to arise that make you want to bring her closer, or into your life intimately. Chemistry is that tie that binds two people together as lovers, partners or even friends. You would not spend time with someone who constantly bickered with you, right? No, of course not. You wouldn’t waste your time doing that. So you take the time to get to know someone in order to feel her, and in doing so you are building chemistry.
So often, you find that a woman will jump into bed with a man before even taking the time to get to know anything about him. She needs to know what makes him tick. She will want to find out what his short-term and long-term goals are. Are they in line with her plans? Can she put up with his flaws? What is his outlook on life? Is he selfish or does he tends to be caring and generous? She needs to know these things in order to build that chemistry and to sustain a successful relationship. A lot of women have the wrong idea because they have never been taught that a man’s behavior can give them insight into how good (or bad) of a lover he is. Therefore, they endure heartbreak after heartbreak because they jump into bed with every man they meet in order to find out what the sex is like--before getting to know him.
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This article was originally published at How To Get The Woman Of Your Dreams. Reprinted with permission from the author.