Well, ladies, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it’s not a good sign if your man can only ejaculate while watching porn videos. But there is hope.
If your man does not want to speak about his failure to ejaculate during sex, he may not feel you are strong enough to handle the truth and still love him. So our goal, of course, is to show him that you are strong enough to not only handle the truth but to make the necessary changes to solve the problems with your sex life.
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Remember, no matter how comfortable you make it for your man to communicate his innermost feelings, it will take some time for him to truly be able to trust you and discuss his desires for another woman or, in some instances, a man. Men can be very immature. Our desire to sleep with other women has very little to do with you. It’s the nature of the beast. We are selfish and do not want women to act as we do. We prefer y0u to be examples of how to behave with the Man of Your Dreams. In short, we want to sleep with other women, but do not want our women sleeping with other men. This is a part of our makeup, much like instinct. It can be explained scientifically, but most men simply know they do not like their women to have sex with other men.
You can think of a million different possibilities for what could be wrong (“Am I too fat?” “Am I too skinny?” “Is my vagina too loose or too big?”), and drive yourself insane. However, most of the time his lack of desire for sex with you will not have anything to do with you, but rather with his past memories and innermost wants and needs. (All Vaginas Are Not Sexually Pleasing to the Male Species as Assumed)
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It’s true you may not be the woman of his dreams. But there are dreams and then there is reality. So stay focused, and let’s bring your man back to reality with the woman he truly loves and not the false images that plague his mind from watching staged pornography, which is telling him lies through visuals. He’s jacking off to a screenplay. The characters are not reality but fictions that have embedded themselves into his mind like a virus. So let’s go eliminate the symptoms of this flu.
When it comes to a serious commitment, a man can do a quick double-take as his energies shift. He sees his single life fading away, and he is stricken with fear. Many of the traditional roles in relationships are also shifting, as women take on more leadership and financial responsibility. Men will sometimes be with you just for the amenities you provide, much like the women of yesterday would use a man. (5 Sure Ways to Know if the Man You’re Dating is a User) Side note: If you are paying the bills, it is not an unreasonable request to make of your man to have great sex with you once a week.