How Does A Woman’s Relationship With Her Father Affect her Man


How Does A Woman’s Relationship With Her Father Affect her Man
A Father's role in his daughter's life is often the difference in the success of her relationships.

A woman’s first relationship with a man is the one with her father. Her father’s intellect, sense of humor, compassion, confidence and integrity all become the foundation for what she seeks in a partner. She seeks a bond with her dad and the desire to maintain that bond lasts a lifetime. If he was present in her life, then he may have been her initial source of guidance, strength and stability.  If he was absent, then she may have deemed him an elusive icon or the standard for all that she wishes to avoid in a future partner.

If her bond was strong with him in childhood and their relationship soured, she may likely develop her coping skills for heartbreak based on that dissolution. Without understanding the true reason for their discord, she may attribute this “failure” to a direct result of her actions (or inaction). Over time, the absence of that father/daughter bond influences her choices in men and her ability to cope with the ebb and flow of a developing relationship.

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Women naturally tend to seek companionship and a partner to share their life.  Unfortunately, a woman’s feeling of failure may stem from insecurities and provoke self-destructive behavior from an otherwise intelligent, independent and self-assured woman.  In casual dating, she can keep her insecurities in check, but if she meets a man that has potential to be “the one,” she becomes more self-aware and cautious. The man of her dreams is hard to come by and therefore, she does not want to lose him. Her “failed” father/daughter bond is her motivation to prevent a future failure with someone she now deems equally relevant to her future. Instead of letting the relationship grow organically, she may focus on avoiding failure. She may slip into behavior and actions she learned in her youth to stay in her father’s good graces.


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If she chooses to share this sensitive topic with the man in her life, she may only tell the story and not necessarily how she deals with its effects. All her man has to do is observe how she handles her everyday interactions with all the men she connects with (professional colleagues, platonic friends, acquaintances, friends’ husbands/boyfriends, etc.) and he will gain a better understanding.


If she is mentally and physically healthy, she will seek out and rely on a strong network of friends and mentors to keep a healthy perspective on relationships and an appreciation for the common contradictions between the sexes. However, if she does not tend to foster outside positive male role models to balance out what her failed father/daughter bond cannot fulfill, she may let her insecurities guide her decisions, instead of her heart and mind.

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