Relationship Fix: How To Put The Spark Back In Your Relationship

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Relationship Fix: How To Put The Spark Back In Your Relationship
Don't fall into a slum and forget about the person you fell in love with in the first place.

As a relationship coach who helps couples decide whether they should makeup or break up, I've encountered my fair share of stale, boring and spark-less partnerships. In my experience, the couple is usually still in love, but their relationship feels flat and they're living more like roommates than lovers. Luckily, there's an easy relationship fix to put the spark back in your relationship and that is mastering the art of seeing your man through the eyes of your friends.

Here's the deal: when you're around your man every single day, obviously his annoying habits are what stick out to you most and get under your skin. But this isn't what your friends see when you join them for dinner and drinks. Instead, they see the fun loving guy you fell in love with. The charming one who's making people laugh, telling hilarious stories and going to the bar to get everyone drinks. Or maybe they see the consummate gentleman who's pulling out your chair, opening car doors and making everyone feel included.

In order to see your guy through your friends eyes you need to go out as a couple more! Start by inviting other couples out to dinner, or include him in your plans with your girlfriends. By being out in the world together, you'll gain a fresh perspective on how great your guy is and how lucky you are to have him.

If your schedule is so crazy that you can't get out and socialize for a while, you can still recapture the guy you fell in love with by calling your close girlfriends and explaining the situation. Tell them you're feeling down about your relationship and it would really help if they could tell you a few things that they like and admire about your guy. Another idea is to commit to seeing only his positive qualities for one whole day. Ignore all of his annoying habits and just focus on why you fell in love with him in the first place. I'm not saying it will be easy, but I promise it will be worth it.

For more practical and proven relationship advice, check out www.makeuporbreakup.com and catch up with me on Facebook!

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