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4 Tips To Stop Being Soooo Negative All The Time

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4 Tips to Change Your Negative Thinking
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Change the way you think.

Studies show that we tell ourselves more than 25 negative messages within a 3-hour period. That is more than one negative thought every 7 minutes!

It’s no wonder we lack self-confidence and balance in our lives. The way you feel about yourself reflects out into the world.

Changing your thinking can be a challenge. But remember, negative thinking is just a bad habit that can be broken. When you change the way you think about yourself, the world will react to you differently.

Here are four tips to help you get started on positive thinking:

1. Flip your thinking.

To stop the hamster wheel of negativity, you must course correct your thinking. Write down your top 3 negative thoughts. Underneath each thought, replace it with a more self-serving message.

2. Remember that feelings aren't fact.

Just because you feel a certain way, doesn't make it true. Many of my clients come to me and say that they feel like they are a failure, are too old, or aren't good enough.

Ask yourself if this is 100 percent true and go about the business of finding evidence to support your new messaging. What may have felt absolutely true, you may find is not.

3. Jump off the negativity bandwagon.

Negativity breeds more negativity. If you are hanging out with people who are gossiping or complaining, you will find yourself doing the same thing. Surround yourself with individuals who can lift you up rather than weigh you down.

4. Refill your container.

Your mind is a container and only has room to hold so much. Replace your negative thoughts with a list of 25 things you like about yourself. Read the list out loud each day to help reprogram your thought process. Keep a copy of it on your phone so that you can look at it when the old thoughts start to churn.

Your mind can only hold so much information. If you fill the container with positive thoughts, the negative ones will have less room.

Choosing to condition your thinking takes practice. These powerful exercises will not only help you raise your self-esteem and confidence but will also help you change your general outlook on yourself and the way you relate to the world.

If you are ready to leave negativity behind and build a confident mindset, please schedule a complimentary 30-minute session with me to learn more tools to quiet negativity.

Gretchen Hydo is a professional certified and credentialed life and business coach, speaker, and author. Contact her for a complimentary, 30-minute discovery session and join her online Shine on Purpose Facebook community to explore her free resources.

 

This article was originally published at Gretchen Hydo of Any Lengths Life Coaching. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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