5 Tips To Help You Find Your Ideal Match

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5 Tips To Help You Find Your Ideal Match [EXPERT]
How to date smarter to finally meet the man you've been longing for.

There are literally dozens of online dating sites. If you've been single anytime in the past decade, you've probably even tried a few. Some even claim that they can match you up with your "perfect dream partner." Watch Out! Online Dating Red Flags

Guess what? I don't believe it can be done! Many sites, even those using fancy algorithms to match you with your soul mate can help you meet and date dozens of people, if that's all you want. They can even land you a warm body you may believe is your life partner but chances are, you still won't find the right person for you.

Why? Chances are if the right person was standing right next to you, you might not even notice them. Why, again, you ask? Simple. You may not know yourself well enough to know who you are let alone who you is right for you. Most people are too busy running around trying to be "the person they think everyone else wants them to be" to know who and what kind of relationship would work best for them. 5 Ways We Sabotage Our Relationships

Therefore, as I design my dating program and get ready to launch it soon, I realize that some people might be confused regarding the goals of dating smarter.

As I see it, the primary problem with dating these days is that we haven't learned the skills necessary to differentiate between the pitfalls of casual encounters and great matches. We haven't learned the process of developing skills that can lead to a healthy, long-term relationship.

This is not another "match" program. This is about finding and knowing your true self so that as you venture into the vast wilderness that is the dating world you can be properly prepared to date smarter. Why You Can't Change The One You Love

It is my goal for participants in my program to be better prepared for dating. I'd like them to figure out more quickly who might be a good match for them. I will train people with tips, techniques and insights into themselves that will ensure their success in choosing better potential mates more wisely.

In order to be successful in finding the right person, you have to learn how to be the "best person you can be." You must be honest about who that is and who you want to share your life with. Many are running around pretending to be the best person someone else might want. These people are continually disappointed and ultimately become disillusioned with the dating scene when it doesn't work out. 3 Reasons Why Reality Is Better Than Fantasy

Here are five tips to help you find your ideal match:

1. You have to be honest about who you are. Understand what you can bring to the table. What are your strengths and weaknesses in relationships?

2. You have to be honest about what kind of person you want to date. Figure out what your priorities are. What is important to you? Physical attraction? Intellect? Spiritual beliefs? Financial security?

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Gina Schuchman

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Gina R. Schuchman, M.S.W., L.I.C.S.W.

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