By Jennifer Oikle, Ph.D. for GalTime
Has your relationship been the cause of more stress than sweetness lately? Perhaps the guy that used to bring a huge smile to your lips now sparks more of a knot in your stomach, a tear in your eye, or just a plain sigh. If it seems like your relationship has seen better days, it may be time to ask the obvious question: Is it best to move on?
In fact, the biggest mistake people make is staying too long in a relationship that is heading nowhere. If you love yourself and your partner, you owe it to both of you to look the ugly in the eye, be honest with each other, and make a courageous decision that frees you both for what you really long for: A love that actually works.
How do you know when it’s time to call it quits? Check out the top five tell-tale signs that you are ready to make a clean break.
5 Telltale Signs It's Time to Break Up
Telltale Break Up Sign 1: It Hurts More than it Feels Good
A happy, healthy love feels good most of the time. Sure, even good relationships include an argument every now and then, but if you feel sad, mad, or anxious more of the time than not, it’s a clear sign this isn’t the right relationship for you.
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Telltale Break Up Sign 2: What You Used to Love is Now Annoying
Opposites attract and in the beginning they can create hot chemistry. But over time, those differences can breed contempt. So at first, when your outgoing boyfriend was the life of the party, maybe your shy side felt alive, important, and sexy. But now, you find his endless energy draining, and his flirtatious, extrovert behavior makes you feel insecure. Once the sparks die down, if your fundamental personality differences become the source of constant conflict, realize it isn’t fair to ask either of you to change who you are. Move on to a better fit instead.