After all of the endless cosmos-fueled discussions with your BFFs about your boyfriends, will you finally crack the guy code about men’s odd behavior? If it were only that simple, ladies. That said, your Guy’s Guy promises to shed some more light on my compadres. I can’t solve all your man problems, but I can share a few additional insights about how men are wired and how they operate. From there it’s up to you.
Here are a few tips about men.
1. Sex, Sex, Sex
Men have sex on their minds. That means every hour of every day. It’s just the way it is. It trumps everything. Case in point. I Just watched The Millionaire Matchmaker. Both guys picked the best-looking women with the biggest boobs. Young guys? They’re hard-wired for sex, 24/7/365 and are easily aroused. And if you think older guys get over their sexual thoughts, just ask Steven Tyler. Married guys? Fuggetaboutit. Sure, many married men repress their urges, but they maintain secret sexual fantasies. Don’t take this personally or as a judgment of your relationship. To men, it’s only sex. And although guys know how to compartmentalize sex, it doesn’t mean they’ll stray. Men think about sex more than they act on it. If you come to terms with this, you’ll be better prepared to deal with the elephant that never leaves the room.
When properly channeled, sexuality is healthy. At the same time, cheating or mentally objectifying women through porn are unacceptable. The point is that men harbor a steady flow of sexual urges that need to be acknowledged, yet harnessed and managed properly. It’s part of being a man.
2. What You See Is What You Get
Although I’ve stated this in previous posts, it’s worth a second mention. For the most part, men are not passive aggressive. If they say something, they usually mean it. If it’s out of anger, they blast it out and move on. Unlike the dysfunctional behavior on those housewives shows and spinoffs, men express themselves without a lot of subtext. Guys really are simple creatures, and I state this as a positive. Clarity and reliability are reassuring traits. Men let you know where they stand. If you’re unsure about a man’s opinion, just ask him. Most men will give you their two cents on any subject or situation except when it comes to….
3. Patronizing Women