4 Reasons Why Guy Friends Are Good To Have
Forget the lies you've heard that men and women can't just be friends. It's fool proof guy advice!
By Marcus Osborne for GalTime
the benefits of having a male friend
Thereās a very simple reason I decided to launch StraightMaleFriend.com: Women needed it. When gals are having issues with their boyfriends, fiancĆ©s, husbands, boy-toys or one night stands... who do they turn to?
Women seek out advice from their best girl friends or their best gay friends. Not a bad move, but perhaps not the best move. Why? Because your girlfriends donāt know what they're talking about and your gay friends in all likelihood, donāt have the same experiences as their straight counterparts.
Most of my closest friends happen to be female. I donāt know why that is, just turned out that way. Gals are a non-stop source of fascination for me. More than anything, Iāve always been intrigued by the way they communicate. Being a member of so many womenās inner circles for all these years has taught me far more about the female gender than I could ever have learned sitting in a locker room full of dudes, BS-ing about how they spent the evening with their latest sexual conquest.
Iāve learned that having women as friends (and ONLY friends) is extremely beneficial. And now Iād like to turn the tables and share with you the reasons that every woman should have a straight, platonic male friend.
1. We know what we're talking about. Iām always amazed at how much awful advice is served up to women by other women. I canāt tell you how many times Iāve sat down with a female friend who followed the council of one of their girlfriends regarding a relationship with a guy, only to have the whole thing blow up in her face. Let me say this in no uncertain terms: SHE DOESNāT KNOW WHAT SHEāS TALKING ABOUT. In much the same way guys need to admit that they donāt know women the way they think they do, women should do the same. Problems with your guy? Talk to another guy.
2. It's an easy friendship. Your relationship with your guy friend will be much less dramatic than one with with your lady friends. Iām aware of the incredible bond between female best friends and the sisterhood of women. But Iām ALSO aware of the myriad pitfalls inherent in those relationships as well. Feelings get hurt or someone gets offended by a perceived slight, which then turns into a far bigger deal than it needed to be. With guys, even when thereās a big disagreement, it usually flares up and gets resolved quickly. Listen, thereās a reason thereās no show on Bravo called āThe Real House Husbands.ā Think about it.
3. You learn about men. Itās like watching an animal in its natural habitat. Many times you can simply watch and learn more about guys buy simply hanging out and being āone of the guys.ā Those of you who have already experienced this, know that weāre not always the most mature creatures, but you also come to understand and appreciate the straightforward simplicity of the way most guys communicate just by being a part of the gang. Understanding how guys deal with each other will absolutely help you with your other experiences with men.
4. It's a great way to meet guys. If youāre a single woman, thereās no better way to meet men than through your guy friends. Your guy friend is going to be one tough screener. Heāll be happy to hook you up with one of his buddies if he believes the dude is decent enough for you.
Now obviously these are all pretty simple and general reasons to tighten up your guy-friend game. But Iām telling you, in spite of what many men and women believe, the genders can and often are able to simply be just friends and nothing more. And when it works, I think THOSE friendships are the absolute cream of the crop.
Do you have a straight male friend? Tell us about your friendship in the comments!
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