It's not an official medical diagnosis, but being single for an extended period of time can become a chronic problem for some. After the footloose and fancy free stage wears off from having a certain level of freedom and independence, often a mild case of loneliness, sadness and depression can occur. Although the amount of time may vary from person to person, being chronically single can be treated - and quite possibly cured.
One way to break the cycle is to follow sound doctor's advice - 'physician heal thyself'. By taking matters into your own hands, you are bettering the chances of finding Mr. Right instead of waiting for him to find you. In the homeopath world, practitioners believe to cure a disease, one should take a remedy, or cure, that has similar symptoms. Similar to the theory behind the flu shot - inject a little of the flu to fight the flu. To find love, you have to inject a little love into your life to find love.
Here's five simple ways to help fight being chronically single:
- Get contagious. Go places where you can meet other people and make new friends. Join a hiking group, sign up for a cooking class or take a singles cruise. The more you immerse yourself into the outside world, the more you are increasing your chances of meeting someone who shares your interests.
- Go viral. If you are active on social networks, now is the time to step up your game. Make new Facebook friends, follow more local people on Instagram and engage more on Twitter. If you aren't on any of the popular sites, choose one and go big. Build a profile and let your online personality shine. Social networking is a great way to express yourself. Just be careful not to overshare, leave juicy details for face to face conversations.
- Run a fever. Get passionate about something - anything - and get involved with it. Are you a political activist? Help a local campaign and fight for your cause. Love animals? Volunteer at the shelter. Want to write a book? Join a writing group. The more you focus on something you love, the better you will feel.
- Check your vital signs. Pay more attention to your behavior. Are you giving off the wrong impression without knowing it? Make eye contact with the barista at Starbucks, smile at the bank teller and say thank you to the person who holds a door open for you. Shoulders back, spine straight and keep that chin up, Buttercup. You never know what handsome stranger may cross your path. You want to be sure you see him when he does.
- Don't make it fatal. If you're single, embrace it. Don't sit around and have poor me pity parties or beat yourself up over it. Enjoy this time of your life to have a bed all to yourself, to not have to fight over a remote or get frustrated over the toilet seat being left up. The happier you are with you - whatever that version is of you - the better you will be for anyone who comes into your life. Loving yourself is the ultimate remedy and the best cure for any situation.
Contributed by Kimberly James, Founder & Dating Expert, FindYourPlusOne.com
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