If you want to avoid being a totally obnoxious couple and still have friends, here’s what you need to stop doing ASAP.
1. You ditch your people.
You take "only having eyes for each other" to a new extreme by rarely seeing your friends and family. If your people are starting to say things like, "How are you? We never see you anymore", it’s a strong sign that you’re ditching everyone to hang out with Captain Wonderful.
Whether you end up at the altar or weeping uncontrollably into a beer, at the very least you’re going to need shoulders to cry on or bridesmaids and groomsmen in the future.
So keep up with your OTHER relationships. Many a friendship has been lost because someone ditched all their friends for their new relationship. Don’t be that person. After your breakup, you don’t want to have to deal with the fact that your friends have moved on too.
2. You ramble on and on about your new flame.
When you do come up for air and see your friends and family, it’s cool to dish a bit about how excited you are. Your people should be happy for you.
However, don’t over share and ramble on and on about how amazing Sally is and how you knew you were going to marry her the second you locked eyes over your Fettuccine Alfredo during your first date at The Olive Garden.
Don’t be the person who won’t shut up about your flame to the point that everyone around you wishes that you would go back to being incommunicado. Let other people get a word in. You care about them too, remember?
3. You overshare on social media.
This is really the new age version of rambling on about your new flame. It’s worth mentioning since there has been a significant backlash against couples over sharing on social media — and for good reason. It’s damn annoying when people post every nauseating detail of their relationships complete with 264 gooey selfies.
Some of the most shared images and articles in the relationship genre lately have all been about people over sharing because everyone else thinks you should get a room. As a guideline, a cute comment or photo every once in a while is okay, but think before you post. If in doubt, CUT IT OUT.
4. Your love is so deep and profound that no one else could possibly understand.
Yes, you’re in love and this person is new to you. And that’s great. The thing is, when you talk about your relationship like it’s the greatest love the world has ever known, it comes off like you’re trying to best everyone around you with your superior relationship.
Other people can fathom how happy you are. Don’t act like they don’t get it.
Related is comparing your new love to the established relationships of your friends, ESPECIALLY when they come to you asking for advice. Even though right now things are beyond fantastically great, eventually your special love flower might hit the rocks and you might want advice so keep the superiority to an absolute minimum.
If you absolutely must feel superior, keep it to yourself.
5. Excessive PDA.
Do I really have to put this on the list? I feel like people should already know that sticking your tongue down your new flame’s throat in public is obnoxious.
And yet, I’ve been party to it RECENTLY and I consider myself a full-fledged grown up (sort of… most of the time).
6. You refuse to go anywhere separately from snookums.
Don’t automatically assume that your +1 is invited to everything that you are. This is fine when you aren’t involving other people, but you’re seriously crossing the line when you can’t come to girl’s night unless you bring Barry from accounting.
It’s okay to ask, but keep in mind that other people might want to just see you. Don’t throw a tantrum when you can’t bring Bridgett who you’ve known a whole two months to your bestie’s wedding. Be cool.
Plus, if you insist on bringing them everywhere with you, then you never get the chance to annoy us by talking about them too much. See numbers 2 and 3 above.
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This article was originally published at Digital Romance Inc.. Reprinted with permission from the author.