6 Toxic Ways You (Accidentally) DESTROY Your Relationship

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6 Toxic Ways to Completely Ruin Your Relationship, STAT
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Want to completely sabotage your relationship? Here's how to do it.

There are six things — supported by the research of Dr. John Gottman — that will completely ruin your relationship if you keep them up.

Once people start doing any of these things, their relationships are at risk of breaking up as well as being completely awful in the meantime.

If you’re interested in driving someone away in short order and long-term, combine all of these as the perfect knockout punch for your limping, sad, lack-luster love affair because these relationship problems can turn toxic...fast:

1. You're constantly critical.

If you really want to get rid of them, be as critical and fault-finding, as you possibly can.

For added points, try to make negative comments about what they’re wearing, their weight, what they say, the way they say it, how they treat you and anything else that even slightly bothers you. Don’t let anything slide. You want to make it as clear as you can that they are screwing up. Tell them all the time.

Some people call this nagging, other people call it "successful boundaries".

2. You constantly show contempt for your partner.

Make sure that along with your constant criticism, you provide a good, strong dose of eye rolling, anger, and outright disgust. Make sure that they know they are off base by backing it up with your negative body language.

If you have to, practice your eye rolling skills in the mirror.


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3. You're defensive.

Did they mention that they would like something done a certain way? Are they hurt by your careless and mean behavior toward them?

This is a perfect time to trot out all of the reasons why you weren’t doing anything wrong. When they protest, completely refuse to see their point of view under any circumstances, even if it’s reasonable and well thought-out.

No matter how logical their suggestions, requests or arguments are, tell them they are wrong and have misjudged you. Argue your hardest and make it impossible for them gain the upper hand or even feel heard.

4. You stonewall.

Tired of hearing pesky (and baseless) complaints that you are not doing a good job being rational and loving toward your partner?

Outright refuse to listen to any idea you don’t agree with. If you have to, ignore them completely by staying glued to your phone or the TV. Don’t acknowledge that negativity, you don’t need it. Do not cooperate with basic requests either.

Respond to their questions with more questions. Make them feel as marginalized and unimportant to you as you possibly can.


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5. You're jealous and suspicious for no reason.

Did you feel like they might be ogling the waitress or waiter?

Be sure to point it out in dramatic fashion. When your partner dares protest, tell them that you just don’t believe in their good intentions and faithfulness. Refuse to hear arguments to the contrary. Drop the bomb that you’re unhappy with them, then stonewall.

6. You obsessively and anxiously communicate.

Adopt the mindset that more than 10 minutes is too long without communication.

Make sure that they can’t get a moment to think without you. Constantly initiate boring, go-nowhere conversations while they are at work, at the grocery store, basically anytime they are out of your sight.

If you can incorporate some nagging, this is a good way to incorporate number 1 as well. Then when they actually are in front of you, it’s time to stonewall. This infuriating hot and cold behavior will "keep them on their toes".

This is a work of satire. However, if you are actually interested in being miserable and ruining your relationship with someone, the things on this list are where to start.


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Elizabeth Stone is a Dating and Personal Development Coach. Keep finding yourself in dead-end relationships with men who do all of the above and then break your heart? Find out how to finally get the love you want with a free copy of her book, Why Men Lose Interest and free daily (almost) email series on her website.

This article was originally published at Attract The One. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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