Why Couples Should Consider A Volunteer Vacation


Why Couples Should Consider A Volunteer Vacation [EXPERT]
Lying on a beach together isn't the only way to recharge your batteries.

As a couples therapist, I hear about the challenges of finding quality time together and the importance of vacations. Many couples are balancing two demanding careers, kids, chores and family responsibility. It is no wonder that when couples finally plan some romantic time away, many opt to lie on a beach somewhere.

Many couples and families are getting ready to do just that for the last few days of summer. For sure, unstructured beach time is a wonderful way to de-stress, reconnect and recharge.

However, in terms of building intimacy through shared experiences, lounging on a beach is not necessarily the answer. Through my work with many couples, I notice that planning a brief vacation doing something more meaningful can enhance a relationship. As a client recently described to me:

My wife and I plan such luxurious trips to treat ourselves, since our work is so demanding. But, the volunteer trip we took with our church did more for our marriage than any five-star restaurant or high end resort. We were helping others together and it was such a welcome change of pace. Sharing a joint purpose and taking the focus off of daily life brought us back to what it was like when we first met. 

Whether vacationing as a couple or as a family, there are many options through which your vacation time can be used to make a difference. GlobeAware, Habitat for Humanity and the American Red Cross are a few of the wonderful organizations to consider. Many places of worship also arrange trips to volunteer. Also, since it is election season, consider volunteering on a political campaign. 3 Essential Tips For Traveling As A Couple

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Elisabeth LaMotte


Social worker, psychotherapist, blogger and author of "Overcoming Your Parents' Divorce"

Location: Washington, DC
Credentials: LICSW, MFT, MSW
Specialties: Communication Problems, Dating/Being Single Support, Divorce/Divorce Prevention
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