Many of us have been raised to think that we will find love when prince charming comes to rescue us on his big white horse. Obviously, we're too old to believe in fairy tales now, but subconsciously, our expectations are still the same. We believe that until we have the right partner, love will remain a distant dream, when in fact, nothing could be further from the truth.
The truth is we need to realize that love is the abundant reality of our beings. As the Persian poet and mystic, Jalal ad-Din Rumi once said, "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." When we accept this, the right partner will come to us, no white horse necessary.
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So, how do you find these barriers? First, you need to free yourself of the true causes of conflict in your relationship. This will require a bit of reflection and a willingness to abandon the worn out patterns of thoughts and behavior that haven't been working and never will. By accepting the following three fundamental truths about love, you will be on your way to developing new patterns and finding the love you want.
1. Love comes from inside of the person that feels it.
Picture yourself falling into the arms and eyes of your lover. Where do you feel the love coming from? It's not from him or her, but from right within your own chest. This is one powerful feeling! All the love you can ever experience comes from here, the "heart cave." It holds the potential for all the love that is possible in your life.
All the great lovers we know of (Jesus, Buddha and Mother Theresa), didn't have more love potential than the rest of us—they just used it differently. They didn’t get confused and believe that love comes from "somewhere out there." They simply found its source inside of themselves and learned how to use it. Is Your Spiritual Life Aiding Your Love Life?
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